Is it an old fashioned opinion.. Engagement before divorce

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Having a chat with a friend and was asking how her wedding plan was going , she has been engaged for around a year and Half with engagement announcement / party, and she said that she hasn't booked anything yet as her fiance hasn't started divorcing his soon (or not) to be ex-wife.
Must admit i did think it was strange as i've not come across this before, Would it make you wonder? I can't really explain why i had a feeling like it was inappropriate, but then sort of pinched myself for being judgemental.

So not to drip feed its not a messy divorce, no house, child arrangements sorted, and no worries financially as have been going on holidays, home improvements etc so its not because of the money side the divorce has been put off

I wouldn't be impressed if a married man proposed to me but as long as she was fully aware of the facts then it's her call.

YANBU. It's ridiculous to get engaged to a married person, who hasn't even started divorce proceedings. Why hasn't he started it? I'd wonder if he was just fobbing his fiancee off with an engagement.
I don't care about being considered judgemental.

I would be judging him too.

I think its completely inappropriate to be engaged to someone who is already married to someone else.

My ex got engaged to OW about a year ago. The divorce finalised a couple of weeks ago. I think it's really fucking crass and in extremely poor taste. Fancy deciding you're going to make solemn binding vows to someone when you're married to someone else. Especially as my DD is excited about being a flower girl and doesn't realise their selfishness is what's blown her world apart.

So he proposed 18 months ago but still isn't getting divorced?

D'oh!

A couple of colleagues of mine got engaged before they were both divorced. They've been married to each other for over 25 years now.

If you are already married you are not free to marry anybody else and so shouldn't be proposing to anyone surely?

If someone has been separated for a while, then I don't see a problem. In Ireland, you have to be apart for at least four years before you can get divorced so I know people who have met new partners long after their marriage broke down but still have to wait years for their divorce to come through before they can get married again.

Any chance they are in a different country? You have to be living apart for four years before you can apply for a divorce here.

In the UK it is very easy to divorce and (in a best case scenario) can be done in a few months, without a lawyer, for just under £600.

If there are issues making it more complicated then he is not yet free to marry. Unless he has some sort of terminal illness he is jumping the gun to commit to a new spouse before finishing with the last one.

no, Not in another country... in
fact She is that close i'm pretty sure we share part of a postcode

Sorry I should have said in the UK as I don’t know Scottish/Irish law. As long as you have been married for a year you can get divorced for irreconcilable differences. Married Jan 2017, file for divorce Jan 2018 divorce = June 2018 approx.