Not saying goodbye

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Just been in a soft play centre with my son to meet friends and saw 2 parents from my daughters school. We chatted and they were friendly but I suppose I initiated it, it was pretty busy in there but they went without saying bye. It's a tiny place it's not like the would have had to search me out, i was on the next table!!

Am I being super sensitive or is that rude? I absolutely love the school we've picked for our children but I'm now starting to worry some of the parents are really annoying and pretty cliquey. maybe I'm just over thinking this but I feel pissed off....

yes you are over thinking it, and sensitive. You are also worrying ahead

Super sensitive I'm afraid, you didn't go together or arrange to meet. It could well be one of those situations where you don't catch each other's eyes to wave. I wouldn't approach someone I wasn't with to say goodbye but would wave and say bye if our eyes met so to speak

I wouldn't go out of my way to say goodbye to someone I wasn't actually out with and wouldn't expect someone I bumped into and had a chat with to seek me out to say bye either.

Were you chatting to your friends at the other table? I wouldn't give it another thought. They were probably busy gathering their stuff & DC together so maybe we're preoccupied.

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YABU I think you are being extremely sensitive. I would not have even thought twice about this.

Could it be that you were chatting to your friends and they didn't want to interrupt? If you were on your own and they didn't say goodbye, that does seem unfriendly, unless perhaps they were so deep in conversation with each other that they forgot about you. Hopefully they'll say hi when you see them at school!

Yes I think you are overthinking it as you know what its like when its time to go its easier to just leave

You weren’t there with them, therefore there was no reason to make and effort to specifically say goodbye.

A quick smile/wave if they happened to catch your eye is nice of course but anything else is unnecessary.

Yanbu, I would find this rude too. These people clearly have no manners which sadly is the norm nowdays. Don't fret, just be glad you have manners and social skills.

Thank you, i feel better now. We chose a school where we don't know anyone over one where we know, and are actually friends with quite a number of other parents but now I think it's bothering me as I feel like an 'outsider' at times so that is probably why I'm overthinking it. Thanks for your replies xxx

@Peoplesuckballs it really wouldn't have been a big deal/effort to turn around and say bye ... but just because I would have done that I suppose I can automatically assume everyone else must do the same.

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Yanbu, I would find this rude too. These people clearly have no manners which sadly is the norm nowdays

What was rude about it?

I think it's bizarre to say they have no manners. If you honestly think this was a display of 'having no manners' then I'm not at all surprised that you think it's 'the norm.' They might have had to rush off to the loo with a younger child, a toddler might have bolted for the door, anything.

Socially, it would be perfectly normal to wave good bye or mouth a 'cheerio then' to someone if you happened to catch each other's gaze.

Overthinking, I would say.

You weren't actually with them.

But then I like to sit on my own very often anyway, so I guess I just wouldn't notice things like this.

These people clearly have no manners

Do you really seek out every person you vaguely know and bump into everywhere you go to say goodbye? Outings must take hours for you

I wonder if I was one of the other mums! I often try to catch eyes with someone to say bye, don't manage it, then think they think I'm rude!!