To ask for your top toddler potty training tips please?

[Anxiousally]

DS is 19 months and DD is due in May.
I dread having 2 sets of nappies to change so would like to get on with potty training DS.
He will tell me sometimes if he has had a poo he just says poopoo but it's always after he has done it. Also I have put him down for a nap twice and checked on him to find he has taken off his bottoms and nappy and had a wee on his bed. When we take his nappy off he always tries to force a wee out and has done it in the potty once which we have lots of praise for but he doesn't seem to get that s what we want him to do all the time.

Aibu to ask for your potty training tips?
Does he sound ready?
I'm a little anxious as a lot of toddlers we know around his age are well on their way.

My DS is 3.5 and still not potty trained so I can't believe you have friends who have potty trained boys at 19 months?!
Having had a newborn last year I would say it's a lot less stressful changing two lots of nappies than having to worry about a toddler having accidents everywhere you go.

There are many different methods and while each child is different, there are some basic guidelines to help a child become potty trained. Communication is huge with the child of what to expect and consistently using the same verbiage will help the child. Visuals are a great way to have the child remain seated while trying to poop (ie: magazine) or for target practice if your child is a boy (ie: cheerios in the bowl when trying to pee and hit the target). Below is a program that one of my friend’s had used when their child was having issues with becoming potty trained and they were able to have their child using the bathroom consistently in less than a week and totally accident free within 2 weeks.
tinyurl.com/y8z4j3v4
Hope this helps. :)

Top tip, is to wait. Until he is truly ready the you'll have it done in weeks instead of months and trailing round with potties.

@thehelpingparent boys should always be taught to wee sitting down so ‘target practice’ is bad advice. If they stand they forget/ don’t learn to poo on a toilet / potty properly which can cause a world of constipation problems.

19m is v young. We cracked it just before 3. 2 in nappies is easier than having to nag, prompt, remind and get to the toilet quickly. No need to feel guilty about baby 2, it’s hormones.

When he is ready though, he might like poo goes home to Pooland. There’s a free app.

Both my ds trained at just 2. I just had several potties in the house and let them go round without bottom clothes on. I can't recall it being stressful or taking ages to be dry in the day, I regularly reminded them to try to wee or poo. When I went to the toilet they used to sit on a potty shaped like a toilet and try. nights took longer.

What PP DoubleChoc said - 19 months isn't too early. Get the book, worked for us at 20 months.

Definitely wait. I had two in nappies for a few months. It’s better than cleaning up accidents and worrying about getting a toddler to the toilet on trips out whilst also dealing with a newborn. Both mine trained at 2 and a half. No way were they ready at two.

I had 2 in nappies for a few months. But there was no potty training. It was straight into pants because she was ready. The only time we have had accidents is when she's had a UTI.

Having 2 in nappies is a lot easier than cleaning up accidents and constantly running to the toilet with your toddler. Although if you have a baby that poos after every feed, you will be changing nappies 30 times a day like a poo procession line.

I disagree with the definitely wait until he's ready crowd - if he is telling you he has done a poo he is showing signs of being capable - being ready, what does that mean? Are they ready to go in a car seat or a high chair? No it just happens and kids are pretty flexible. Training a boy is no different from training a girl and friends of mine are struggling training a tantruming toddler whilst having a young baby. Doing it whilst pregnant will not be easy but you only have to deal with one whilst the other one is sorted out by your body. Watching a toddler like a hawk whilst seeing to a newborn will be harder IMO and you can't move when feeding a newborn.

I'm one of the Oh Crap brigade so ignore if you don't want to follow that method but it worked for my DS in 4 days at nearly 20 months so it's just an example.

Good luck OP, go with your gut x

My DD was out of nappies by 18 months but she was telling me she needed to go and refused to use a nappy. Before that i would sit her on the toilet every morning to do her first wee.

Being ready means that they are capable, happy and really want to use the potty or toilet. And that’s usually when they’re a little older. Of course some children can be ‘trained’ earlier with not many problems but for the majority there’s months of accidents ahead. This is minimised when older.

And BTW Op don’t read Oh Crap if you don’t like misogynistic books that try and exacerbate ‘mum guilt’. I was appalled by it

I haven't rtft but I'd recommend not closing the bathroom door when you or DP are using the toilet . On occasion, show him what is in the toilet bowl.

DS was bloody easy to potty train and i think its because we were so open with bowel habits.