How do you decide if a person is "dead to you"?

[IsThisMeToo]

I am struggling to move on from something/someone from the past and I am thinking I'll think of this person as dead.

Does it make sense?

It does make sense. I don’t know if this is for everyone, but I feel like I can never truly move on from a situation until I have forgiven the person. I don’t have to tell them, I just know in my heart I don’t harbor any hate towards them. And that’s what helps me move on.

It makes perfect sense to me. You can mourn the loss of the person/relationship and move forward with your life.

It makes sense. Some things are just to bad to forgive so if doing it your way and thinking of them as dead means you can move on then do it. I would say that if you haven't made peace with it in your own head though that it can still affect. So really think about whether you have done that and then hopefully you can put it in the past and move on. Hope you are okay.

That should say - it can still affect you.

There are two people in the world who is dead to me. They are blocked on all social media (or those forms that I’m still on - not many), and I never google them. Both people who hurt me very badly and deliberately.

Sometimes it’s the only way.

Strangely enough OP, I have never been in this situation but now am. I am currently also deciding what to do. I think total block is the only way, for your own sake, sometimes.

You can mourn the loss of the person/relationship and move forward with your life.

Yes, exactly. It's really hard for me to move on and it's been years and I am just so tired of it.

I think if you do that, at least you're giving yourself permission to not think about it at all, if that's possible.