Maintenance

[Crazycatladyx5]

My ex refuses to pay maintenance for our DD into my bank as he says its more likely to get spent on DD if he gives me cash.
He always pays but not always on same day or on time. Last week he got a migraine so didnt collect her from school & it was my weekend so we didnt see him so I was expecting 2 weeks money tomorrow but now he says he might not be able to collect her if we get the forecast bad snow. So I pointed out, again, that it would be much easier to pay DDs money into my account. Told him I'll have to go through CMS. He says I'll get less, he currently pays £30 a week. So he would let his daughter get less money rather than set up a standing order! AIBU if I do go through CMS & DD gets less?

Go throuh the CMS. He sounds controlling.

Go through CMS.

Sounds like he likes to yank your chain. Don't fall for it.

As a LP I can only say, be independent.

Just go through the Cms. Surely less but regular is better? Don't expect it to be quick though. It takes a while to all go through so apply ASAP.

Cms =no power trips from him =no stress to you.

OP, is he even paying you the correct amount?

It's true that you may get a few quid less through them, but he'll also be paying a higher amount to cover their fees. It's certainly not in his best interest to muck you about.

I doubt you ll get less - arseholes like him rarely voluntarily pay a penny more than they absolutely have to for CM!

He is just messing you about.

Go through official channels, then he has no excuse. You then don't have to be the one that fights him when he is unreasonable. Sounds to me like he's making it so inconvenient for you he's hoping you'll give up.

Well if you know what his gross salary is, or was when you were together have a look online I'm sure there is an online calculator to work out roughly what you could expect to receive. Don't forget to take account of whether your DD stays overnight with him enough to qualify for a reduction and whether or not he has any children living with him.

Thanks everyone.
When we were together he was on just over minimum wage.. I can't remember what exactly. DD stays there 1 night a week. (Well 2 nights every other weekend so works out one night a week) He has no other children. I think he might get tax credits or carers allowance as he might look after his gf - but they wouidnt be counted as income when working out what he should pay. If hes on minimum wage he would be on £120 a week.....I did online CMS calculation....he would have to pay £10 a week! I'd love to say stuff it & go through CMS & stop him trying to control but I can't afford to lose £20 a week.