Maintenance

[Crazycatladyx5]

My ex refuses to pay maintenance for our DD into my bank as he says its more likely to get spent on DD if he gives me cash.
He always pays but not always on same day or on time. Last week he got a migraine so didnt collect her from school & it was my weekend so we didnt see him so I was expecting 2 weeks money tomorrow but now he says he might not be able to collect her if we get the forecast bad snow. So I pointed out, again, that it would be much easier to pay DDs money into my account. Told him I'll have to go through CMS. He says I'll get less, he currently pays £30 a week. So he would let his daughter get less money rather than set up a standing order! AIBU if I do go through CMS & DD gets less?

Is he employed ?

It’s about control, he wants to be in control and do it how he wants

Just go to the cams get it set up and it will cost him to have to pay you...

How much do you think he earns? Is £30 really 15% of his weekly pay?

At the moment you’re getting nothing as he hasn’t paid you this week. Not really possible to get less than nothing. He’s paying you in cash because it suits him because it makes you more beholden to him- can’t be “difficult” because otherwise he won’t pay up. If he doesn’t feel like coming round, he won’t pay up.

Honestly go through the CMS at least you have a much better chance of him actually paying you and your daughter what he should be.

How much does he earn?

He works as a carer. Does 1 sleepover shift a week. He's paid £30 a week since he left 18 months ago. He was doing 2 shifts & has cut to one (but has somehow bought a house!) He was on just over minimum wage when he left but was only getting paid £20 between 11pm-7am. I know that's changed....he gets full hourly rate all night now, which probably is how he's cut shifts. (He was always incredibly lazy.) My salary paid for everything when we were married.. .actually we still are married cos I cant afford to divorce him....but that's another thread!

If he's PAYE just move to CMS and take away his power. They identify the amount from his p60. If he was self-employed or a sub-contractor I would say don't bother.