DH embarrassed by my sensitivity

[MarysLittleLamb]

I get very moved by certain types of art and music, so much so that I occasionally cry. Last year we went to the Louvre and I ended up silently weeping at a number of art works. When we got out of the gallery DH admitted that he finds it all a bit over the top and unnecessary - as if I do it on purpose!

Anyway we've just got back from Rome. I became a little overwhelmed in the coliseum when I thought about the violence and death that had taken place there. DH said I was the only one in the entire place crying and he was fed up with it. I explained that I don't do it on purpose, it just gets to me.

We went to the Sistine Chappell the day after and I ended up screaming at the MichaelAngelo. A number of tourists tried to console me but DH just walked off muttering "for fucks sake". I felt so stupid. When we got out DH had a massive rant at me about how I spoil everything for him and he often wishes he was with someone normal who could visit places without making a scene. He also declared that he no longer enjoys travelling with me. I'm gutted because travel is the main thing we do together. AIBU to think I can't change who I am or should I??

Now cursing the OP, as enjoying the thread far too much to actually be able to do any work

Add Marley & Me to the list of films you shouldn’t watch.

OP, is it inappropriate to ask how you react to orgasms (your own, obv.)

Never watch Tarka the Otter. Ever.

Chifi Would you consider getting your bedroom ceiling done with a mural.*
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Chapeau, my dear, chapeau

Are you crying at the replies op?

I've cried in the cinema before (did not expect the beginning of Arrival to be so sad - its a sci-fi film!) but I managed to do so quietly, without ruining the experience of everyone else in there.

OP

Do not go and see this painting - EVER

They didn’t escort my wailing woman out. People just backed away and she did this dramatic shoulders heaving thing and then shut up.

It looked like she was doing it for effect, not involuntary, as if she thought she were supposed to be overcome by the beauty of it all.

Having queued for over an hour inching our way down the corridor, I’m surprised more didn’t cry with relief once we were in there!

This must go into the classics surely. OMG nearly wet myself laughing, need to bookmark and read again later. So many hilarious responses MN at its best.

Oh the humanity screaming at art your poor DH and that poor old lady.

OP I cry a lot, adverts, films, sometimes music. My friend is very sensitive and he cried when we went to the WW1 exhibit at the Imperial War Museum (which is very moving) but it was still just a silent little weep. The Sistine Chapel is also a massive let down. The art is lovely but it’s souless.

If you’re screaming and wailing that’s really not an appropriate or proportionate. I’m not surprised your husband is exasperated. Your reactions are totally over the top and I do think you should seek help. Maybe CBT to learn how to control these emotions.

Rue and Katniss in the Hunger Games.

"Deep in the meadow, under the willow."

@DancesWithOtters I think DS would lie down and scream and vomit if he lost his bear too. But he's 20.

I never been let watch WatershipDown. I think the wailing and gnashing of teeth when I read the book may have given sufficient indication of what my reaction was going to be.

Really cracking up at all your unfortunate holiday destinations. Has your DH not learnt by now to just suggest a beach?

Ooh I'm like the Catherine Tate surprised woman! But that's a bit different - I'm jumpy rather than moved by art.

But I did get like this when pregnant. I once blubbed at the "beauty" of a Joss Stone video!

But what I notice about the OP's experiences is it's all major, famous stuff - Louvre, Colosseum, Sistine Chapel. Are you really overwhelmed or is it about an awareness that these are things that you are "supposed" to find mindblowing? And if you don't people will think you're heard-hearted (likewise with the kids' concerts)?

Frasier don’t try and pin this fuckery on anxiety, those of us who suffer from it reject OP, we feel like a burden, unloveable, shameful, actively avoid drawing attention to ourselves. The OP is ruining other people’s experiences and demanding attention, she needs to find techniques to get herself under control, but it’s not anxiety.

And is also shit at replying to her own thread.

Hi OP, have you ever come across the expression Highly Sensitive Person?

It may help to check out this website.

hsperson.com/

Sorry you are getting such nasty replies.

Has your DH not learnt by now to just suggest a beach?

Can you imagine the hysterics at sunset?

I actually don't think YABU. If that's what you feel then it should be respected. Overwhelming or not we should be free to express that emotion. Art would be rubbish without it.

I think your Oh sounds supportive.

Have you contemplated aversion therapy? A week in Benidorm should sort you out

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I’m a ‘crier’ these days. I’d cry at Ground Zero, just thinking about the families that lost a loved one. I cry at movies and over threads on here. If I was that way inclined I might cry in a gallery (but I’m not, I’m simply thinking ‘Can we PLEASE go now?’ Unfortunately, I seem unable to control the tears. However, there’s a HUGE difference between shedding a few quiet tears and the performance you describe.

I’m with the poster who said they wouldn’t risk a trip to Tesco with you.

Your DH is a Saint. If you don’t get your shit together he might choose to be a Single Saint.

Drama Llama.

**UNsupportive

OP careful now - getting escorted out by the guards - you are getting close to blowing it - no when to stop!

Can you imagine though, you're in the Sistine chapel with your partner. There's a quiet, contemplative atmosphere, and suddenly your partner starts screaming and wailing and wanting to levitate.

It's one of those what do you do.,high tail it out of there, or pretend you don't know them or decide to end it with them then and there. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Hedgehogs crossing the road in Farthing Wood would still get me now I reckon. Christ that show was an emotional rollercoaster. I was only 7 when I watched that! When Mrs Pheasant got shot and then the mouse family got impaled on brambles by the butcher bird and then Mr Pheasant, devastated, flew into the farmer's gunfire also.

I needed some time to contemplate my young life after that series of events, I don't mind telling you.