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AIBU?

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Is this a bit weird and desperate?

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Sallysollyfilly · 25/02/2018 20:51

Was out at a drinks festival thing yesterday - my friends were chatting to guys and I wasn’t but was quite plastered (!) so just thought fuck it and ended up approaching men who I liked the look of. I believe the line I used was “are you Irish?” To start the conversation. Quite a good success rate in fairness!

Ami weird and beyond help? A lot of alcohol was consumed along with not much food

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Whocansay · 26/02/2018 20:35

Maybe he just actually likes you and thought you were fun?

(Does 'get off with' mean 'shag' now? Thought it meant 'snog'... am old! )

dreamingalwaysdreaming · 26/02/2018 20:39

It could be worse - I used to comfort myself with the view that everyone else was likely also to have been quite drunk too.

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Sallysollyfilly · 26/02/2018 20:40

We didn’t have sex! Just a kiss and I went home

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Sallysollyfilly · 26/02/2018 20:41

One pretended he was Irish, one was Scottish and this one is from the Home Counties 😂

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Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 26/02/2018 20:41

Tbh it sounds exactly like what drunken men do towards the end of the evening if they haven't already copped off with someone - just lurch up to random women with some random nonsense in the hope of finding someone who is willing.

I imagine the chance of success is MUCH higher if you are female but...I would worry about the sort of man who would respond to that.

Emmageddon · 26/02/2018 20:46

He's probably lovely. Go out for a drink with him and see what you think - maybe don't get sloshed this time though? And don't repeat the line about looking for a husband.

Missingstreetlife · 26/02/2018 20:46

Keep safe and have fun. Drink less.

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Sallysollyfilly · 26/02/2018 20:48

Absolutely not planning to get sloshed thus time. The only consolation is that he has days a few times how drunk he was too. Worth a try? Can I erase first impressions?!

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Sallysollyfilly · 26/02/2018 20:48

Sorry for typos!

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stopfuckingshoutingatme · 26/02/2018 20:50

Did you cop off ? If yes then it worked

LilacClouds · 26/02/2018 20:51

Don't want to burst your bubble but I'd be wary of someone very keen to meet and who is talking about spending the night together even in jest, if you were very drunk when you met.

Of course if this was a film, he would have found your drunkenness endearing which probably is the case however don't drop your guard, be grateful that he wants to see you even after you think you made a drunken fool of yourself and think it's definitely the case. Your creepometer would have been impaired. Your earlier post about asking people if you're attractive or not could make you seem vulnerable and/or an easy target. Not saying this person thinks that but, they might. Be cautious.

If you do meet up, don't get drunk, meet in a public place, plan how you're getting home and don't go home with him or having him back to yours.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 26/02/2018 20:52

No it’s not ‘heading into booty call territory’ as you didn’t have sex with him the first night, if you had he might quite reasonably expect a repeat, but as you didn’t, then no. Go for a drink, try not to get plastered and see if you still fancy him when you’re both sober.

LilacClouds · 26/02/2018 20:52

don't drop your guard or* be grateful

Not "be grateful".

Bad writing...

BadTasteFlump · 26/02/2018 20:54

Don't overthink it Op - just go out, have fun and see where it goes...

And if you do want to take it a bit more seriously, just don't get pissed

If I were 25 again I would do everything I did and a bit more - and I wouldn't take it all half as seriously.

starlightafar · 26/02/2018 20:54

^ THIS with bells on
very wise

KnitFastDieWarm · 26/02/2018 20:54

You are single, 25, at a festival and you were taking charmingly drunken bollocks and got a guy’s number - relax and enjoy! Nothing to feel bad about

BadTasteFlump · 26/02/2018 20:55

And I would take 'another night' to just mean a night out, nothing more.

Pfftkids · 26/02/2018 20:58

Sounds like you had a great night and he's obviously interested if he wants to meet up again so don't over think it. You couldn't have been that bad. Did you ask him how many babies he wants? 😂

halfwitpicker · 26/02/2018 20:59

Better than 'fancy a shag' I suppose

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Sallysollyfilly · 26/02/2018 20:59

Saving that gif next date ;)

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Sallysollyfilly · 26/02/2018 21:00

Gif = for

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Pfftkids · 26/02/2018 21:10

Ask for his starsign too 😂

Hope your date goes well. You'll need to come back and tell us how it goes

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Sallysollyfilly · 26/02/2018 21:27

I will! Worst comes to worst, it will hopefully be a funny story!!!

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Ohyesiam · 27/02/2018 07:47

He sounds keen, so you can't have fuckedup.
God it's hideous being young. It does all get easier you know.
One day you will have a lot of respect for everyone, and still not give a fuck what they think. But sadly you might be a bit wrinkly and lacking a waist by then.

snewsname · 27/02/2018 07:52

I'd interpret night as evening. Go for it.

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