So at some point being as though ds is due in 5 weeks, DP's nan wants one to one time with dd. Bear it in mind there's 11 months between my two children so in no way will i be having dd going miles to see her just for a day with a tiny baby. No, I want her home to adjust to the new baby. Apparently according to DP's nan IABU for not allowing the one to one when new baby is here and so young. It'd take 3 buses for her to get to his nans house which I'd have to take her with a newborn as we don't drive.
So I don't want DP's nan looking after dcs until they're a lot older under supervision.
When dd was a month old, she was in her care for 2 seconds and all the dogs were slobbering over her. She kept kissing and licking dds hands which I wasn't happy with.
We see her every 2 weeks (if she has time for us) and last time she was belching into dds head. Ew and this is another thing. I'm very careful with what I give dd in terms of food. I have RA and it's a very strong genetic line. (mom, brother etc) an I think she's showing signs of ADHD personally. So I just want to keep her healthy on good foods.
DP's nan fed her on junk. Fresh cream cake, éclairs, sweets (she's got no damn teeth yet!) chocolate I was furious. But she does this as a bribe to get her grandkids to like her. Her 6 year old granddaughter she gives all the things her parents say she can't have to bribe her into liking her. Is this unreasonable to not want them alone together?