To tell friend it's too late now?

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Friend was due at 5.30. It's now 6.10. I need to start bedtime routine in 35mins.
AIBU to tell him not to bother?
DH says I'm only doing it because we don't like friend's new GF....

Were they just due to visit for an hour?

Depends what he's coming for.

Your DH can entertain while you do bedtime?

Yes just popping in for a brief visit. Friend is aware of children's bedtime.

Maybe they want to avoid seeing your DC?

I would let DH entertain them, whilst you put DC to bed.

Id tell them not to bother, being that late is blatantly rude

Leave your dh to deal with them -

That depends. How long were they planning to stay?

Can your DH not do bedtime?

I think you are being over the top. Let your H deal with them or whatever.

If say you were due to meet somewhere then I could understand but you're being a bit dramatic.

YABU leave it to your DH and stick to your normal routine.

Can’t stand lateness. Especially if they’ve not been in touch to say why. I’d cancel tbh.

Get on with what you need to do for your routine. Don’t stop until you have finished, regardless of when they appear..

Does he have form for this? In my childish mind if he turned up 5 minutes before children's bedtime I would say to him to wait in lounge while you and DH both do bedtime and make him wait but that's just me in my present mindset.

Did the conversation go

Can we pop in for an hour?
Yes, when?
Sun, early evening
Well, it's not a good time for us really as we need to sort out putting dc to bed by 6.45
Oh, that's fine, we'll be away by then.

or

are you assuming they know it's really important to you you put the dc to bed at 6.45, and it wasn't specifically stated ?

Because that makes a difference to my response.

I would just carry on with bedtime as normal and not be downstairs when they arrive - why does it matter?

So what happened?

They didn't turn up at all! Husband called at 7, they'd gone elsewhere.

At least bedtime wasn't disrupted!

How rude!

Twats

And they could have sent a text.
What if you had kept the dc up to see then. How rude indeed.

Why does everything on MN have to be so over-dramatic? You were stressed about their lateness and putting your dc to bed and now they didn't show up at all so they are "twats".

People should calm the fuck down. This was a non-event. FFS can everyone get a fucking grip.