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That I didn't ask /want to know about his dream?

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Aprilshowerswontbelong · 25/02/2018 17:29

I have trouble sleeping, staying asleep and dropping back off after multiple wee trips in the night, at 46 am thinking hot sweats +palpitations age related (been checked out last year for palpitations). I often have really graffic dreams that wake me upset and in a state. Once dreamed dd drowned and woke crying and distraught, the other night I had one in which I was sexually assaulted in a take away queue! Others include the death of one of my ddogs and a house fire my dc were trapped in. So dh woke up and told me he had had a bad dream , I cuddled him and tried to fall back asleep - he got up as he always let's me have a lie in at the week ends - fab dh! But I feel shit I didn't ask about his dream, he isn't an offloader in general and didn't offer up any details but honestly I struggle dealing with my own horrendous dreams as it is!! Shall I let it go or explain why I don't ask? I don't want to make it all about me as I am sure it was awful to him and I know obviously that dreams aren't real, but when dc are involved they seem it!! Would something like Nightol help me have a calmer sleep? Feeling shattered and a crap dw tbh!

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Sparkletastic · 25/02/2018 17:39

Nothing more boring than hearing about someone's dreams. Certainly never enquire. He's a big boy. He'll cope.

DalekDalekDalek · 25/02/2018 17:41

Tbh, there doesn't even sound like there is an issue here. He didn't tell you about it, you didn't ask. Maybe he didn't tell you because he knows you have enough going on?
Go to your doctor if you are having such unsettled nights, they can help. Are you on any medication? I used to get horrible dreams when I was taking propranalol and had to be prescribed something to help which sorted the problem within a few days.

Aprilshowerswontbelong · 25/02/2018 17:46

Not on any meds. And you have to be nearly dead to get an app at our Dr. Seems daft to mention bad dreams at my age!

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Nottheduchessofcambridge · 25/02/2018 17:48

When I have dreams like that and I try to explain them to my DH I can feel him die a little inside Wink
Like another poster said, nothing more boring that someone else’s dream. It’s just a dream.

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