To cry all the time

[Saturnday]

I always have. Not in a depressed way, just whenever things go wrong, or I am tired, I weep.

I don’t do ‘delicate’ crying- it’s all or nothing complete with red eyes and runny nose. It happens at home mostly, but also at work, if I get overwhelmed.

I am 35, and I am embarrassed that I have this tendency, so undignified, but I can’t seem to help it.

What do you think of cryers?
Do you judge us as weak, immature, unprofessional?
How can I try and stop?

You can be honest, but not too hash pls- I might cry

Can't you make for the loos at work if you feel you're going to cry?

Aww OP I’m just like you. You can’t beat a good old blub imo. I’m quite an extreme person in my emotions, normally I’m happy, cheerful and quite excitable, but I can easily swing the other way and have a good sniffle. I sometimes cry when I’m happy too. Negative attitudes towards crying in the workplace annoy me. At my office it seems perfectly acceptable to shout at people, but not to cry, which seems wrong to me.

Doesthislookoddtoyou - honestly, if you can't stop crying, it can't possibly be manipulative - and there's got to be some sort of psycho-physiological difference between criers and non-criers, because I used to be firmly the former, and now I'm not, well, not any more than anyone else, I don't think. Do try not to be so judgemental. You don't know what's going on in another person's head.

I cry at everything, but particularly conflict of any kind.

I remember in a previous job, 3 months in, having a bit of a breakdown because I had to tell the owner/manager, in a private chat, that I didn't think her deputy liked me or wanted me there (she didn't, and she didn't, and I left over a year later, so at least I wasn't wrong)

It really is just that I struggle to talk about my feelings at the best of times, and doing so in a pressurised situation sets me off. I have anxiety, always have, and have always been a bit of a weeper.

It's not something that I can control - it's just what happens, it's a response that I can't do anything about despite all my efforts - but I've learned to deal with it and try to conceal it when necessary.

I have all the emotion of a corpse. I would find an adult crier odd, babyish and assume they had mental health issues which possibly not being addressed.

Gosh, how nasty. You do know that a distinct lack of emotion can lead others to suspect MH issues too, don't you?

I have cried a couple of times at work involuntarily because I was grieving and the floodgate opened when it was mentioned. I must have a MH issue according to some PPs here

I'm a huge cryer OP but thankfully not a weeper. I did my fair share of weeping after DS1 (PND).

I hate it. I can be fine one minute, then if eg. a sad or soppy advert comes on I find my eyes welling up and I'm fighting back tears! It's really embarrassing.

I started my first job at 17, absolutely hated it due to bullying by an older colleague. Broke down many a times on the way home but never at the workplace for which I am really proud. Years later (at a different workplace which I loved), my colleagues whom I considered good friends, forgot my birthday one year. I was quite low at the time so had a secret cry, but pretty sure they realized because someone swiftly went out and brought back cake 😂🙈

It's not something we can help I'm afraid.