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GuttedAndNameChanged · 24/02/2018 19:20

I am considering leaving my husband.

We don't have any savings, in fact we are in about 10K of debt.

How do I leave without a penny to my name?

I don't even know how I'd get anywhere to live!

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GuttedAndNameChanged · 24/02/2018 19:46
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Motherlucker · 24/02/2018 19:51

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GuttedAndNameChanged · 24/02/2018 20:06

Hi motherlucker.
We don't own our home, we rent.
We have 1 DS and I do work.
No family or friends (he has parents but he won't go to them for the sake of his ego!)
I am safe, he's not abusive.
I've tried talking to him. His behaviour hasn't changed and I am just not willing to tolerate it anymore.

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GuttedAndNameChanged · 24/02/2018 20:07

I'm not ok tbh, I feel like I've backed myself into a corner with the finances and now I'm stuck.

I am so unhappy.

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Backscratchesforever · 24/02/2018 20:11

I would tell him it is over and request he leave in exchange for you taking over the house and costs. But then it depends really on the shared care of DS. Will he be with you most of the time or your soon to be ex?

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GuttedAndNameChanged · 24/02/2018 20:29

DS would be pretty much 50/50 with us. He's at school when we're at work so one of us has always dropped off and the other picked up which will be a pain now.

I don't think DH would want to move out just because he's got such pride and moving into his parents is too much for him to contemplate.
He will really think I'm being dramatic and push on and on that I'm being silly.

I feel like I've failed. Divorce is not something I ever thought would be an option, like I never even considered it as a possibility. I am heart broken.

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GuttedAndNameChanged · 24/02/2018 20:56

I guess I've fallen out of love but we're such different people and we married so young. He can be a massive pain - the 'usual' doesn't help with housework, late nights out nonsense. I'm just tired of living with it all.

I don't really have anyone to talk to irl, there is a close friend but she's going through something quite serious herself so I don't want to be dumping my stuff on her at a time like this. My parents aren't around anymore and no siblings.

I suppose could talk to his parents but there so reserved that they'd be difficult to have a conversation with about it. Emotions especially failure / weakness aren't shown in their house.

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GuttedAndNameChanged · 24/02/2018 23:20

He came home after an 11 hour bender today and tried to climb in bed between me and our DS who were both asleep.
He is now asleep on the sofa. 😡

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GuttedAndNameChanged · 25/02/2018 07:38

Thank-you motherlucker.
I'm going to do a bit of research today.

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