To ask for your positive single parent examples

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I’m in a miserable relationship that’s making me very unhappy. There is n sex, no joy and he’s difficult to live with. We have 2 young kids which is why I am still here I think after 17 years. I am 44 and it’s making me feel like my life is over.
Aibu to ask about your positive examples of single parenting as I am scared of being broke and lonely which I think is what’s keeping me here, even though the relationship is also making me feel lonely.
Give me some positive examples.

My best friend left her controlling prick of a husband and she's happier then ever, busier than ever and I swear she gets younger.....
The kids are growing up seeing their mother a happy and independent woman too rather than a miserable, downtrodden member of staff which is what her husband treated her like.

Why would you assume it’s negative?

@ohreally I don’t nescessarily- I am just scared I guess

Parenting in the way I wish to. A calm and peaceful home. It’s tough, there’s no denying it...but it’s so so rewarding. How old are your dc?

6 & 10 @bubbles

It is scary. But surely being broke and lonely is better than what you have now?

FWIW my ex left me 10 years ago for OW when I was pregnant. I have been single since (although not celibate). There are frustrations and hair raising moments but so were there frustrations and hair raising moments in my marriage. I hate - with an absolute passion - that being a single parent is somehow second best and miserable and awful and everything negative. It is simply - like everything else - whatever you make it.

I left my horrible ex over 10 years ago now. It was tough at first but I was a zillion times happier even though I had very little. Just hang in there as you build everything back up and enjoy your emotional freedom. It's fantastic. My daughter is very happy and well adjusted and doesn't take any shit herself (she's 21 now) having had the example from me of what to do.

I was never as lonely as in the crappy marriage

Omg I love it

Left my miserable arse of an H 5 years ago.
Since then me and the dcs have had fab holidays every year (including Florida twice, on my own with them, I felt like superwoman lol) 💁🏼‍♀️
This year I'm taking them to Hong Kong on my own and we will have the best time without that miserable cunt controlling everything!!

The dcs are happier and I'm happier. I would never want to be back in my marriage even if you paid me

I have also travelled extensively without him and completed my MSc this year.
When he heard I was doing the MSc he said 'oh you're not still doing all that shit are you'

It is so worth it. Yes, it is tough sometimes but not as tough as it was being in my marriage. I feel I setting a good example to my DDs and I am a strong woman.

I was worried about money when I left too. I have been fine, you work it out. Take a deep breath and jump.

Even I the toughest of moments nothing has ever proved tougher than when I was with my dc father. And I see that quite often mentioned here too.

I raised my dd on my own and was quite happy. However I did have excellent support from my mum and dad, so I may not have managed so easily without them. However my story is very different to yours as I was a single parent from conception.
One thing I will say ;though and ill always allude to. As the child of divorced parents.
One happy parent is better than 2 unhappy parents living together.

My DH was raised by a single mother and he’s the most kind, genuine person I’ve ever met. So don’t think for one minute you can’t do this. :)

I'm a single parent. I work full time and two sons in primary school. We are planning to interrail around Europe this summer. Since being single, I have bought and sold two houses, renovated our current house and have increased my salary by 50%

I've been single for five years and I do have a friend with whom I have sex when we fancy it. I have absolutely no desire to live with another man again. I am very happy as I am.

I’m going to be a single parent soon for the second time and I can’t wait. Yes it’s hard but it’s a million times better than being in a bad relationship. You will flourish and so will your kids.

A lot of early research compared kids with god dads to kids with no dads and that’s why many of us have a fixed idea that single motherhood is something to fear. Raising kids in a tense environment with a terrible relationship model is far far far more damaging that taking a tiny risk and setting yourself free.

Good dads!

I left my husband when I was pg with dd2. I regret nothing. My children are well rounded confident kids who are doing brilliantly at school. They are well behaved and I'm often complimented by parents who invite them for tea etc how good they are.
I can't guarantee the above would be the case if they had witnessed any more abuse from exh.

Brought up my ds as LP from day one.
Ex was mental so I left him when I was 6 months pregnant.
There were some ups and downs along the way but I always knew how I wanted to parent and ds was always brilliant and admired by people who we met. Well behaved, confident and charming. Still is.
I was pretty broke, but I'm not motivated much by money. if you are, I expect you will find a way to get it.

Best thing for me about being a single parent is having a calm and happy household. No tenseness and atmosphere. I can make decisions without having to compromise. I work long hours and money can be tight at times but DS and I have a fantastic time together. I am 100 times happier as a single parent than I would ever have been if I stayed with my ex.

I'm a single parent by choice (through adoption) - I love it 😊 I have known forever that I wanted to be a single parent; I guess I am a bit of a control freak that's why... I make all the decisions... Am happy with it and would always 100% rather be on my own with my child than in a half baked relationship.

I was a single mum for 18 months, 3 kids. I was 25.
I got on my feet in 6 weeks, no support from him, I did have to depend on benefits.
It was an amazing time of my life! I found myself, I spent time, real time with my kids and friends and I honestly amazed myself.
Ex told me I was useless, needed him, was a waste of space etc.

To get a new home, on my feet and find a routine and rejuvenate myself; it was life changing. The strength and the happiness I found on my own was invigorating.

I am a single parent. It’s really tough at times but waaaay better than being with someone you’re not happy with. Waaaaaaaaay better.

I have been a single parent for 7 years. Dc were 3 & 4. I have slowly got my career back on track and now work 4 days a week in a well paid job. Have travelled all over the world with DC and absolutely love being able to do what I want, when I want.

It was very very tough for the first couple of years, but as another poster said it was way tougher and lonelier in the relationship that was over.

Hello! I'm 40 and far, far prefer being a single parent. Money is extremely tight and that's hard, but having my own space and being able to make my own decisions is like gold dust and I'm never giving it up.
I don't regret ending my marriage in the least.