Just posted on mental health but reposting here for traffic.
NC as very outing.
Will try to keep this short. My brother has serious anger issues. He loses his temper very easily plus although he’s not an alcoholic, the slightest bit of drink sparks the anger (though the anger outbursts often happen when he’s sober).
He’s been with his partner for around years and has always taken anger out on him. When they are with our family, we all notice the little digs and nasty looks he gives him all the time - sometimes I hear nasty things he says to him under his breath and realise if that’s what he’s like in public, it must be awful in private.
Lately, it’s got really bad. His DP made a major fuck up which he’s trying to make up for but my DB bitterly resents him for it and takes it out on him constantly. It has turned physical. We often get middle of the night phone calls from his sobbing DP and he escapes to our house.
Confronting DB is not an option - he would just completely fly off the handle. And though I know he’s the one in the wrong here, he needs help as he clearly has MH problems. I try and try to think back to our childhood to figure out what might have sparked this simmering rage but I just don’t know. I remember the sweet, shy little boy who was my partner in crime as a child and it breaks my heart.
I need advice as to how we can even begin to try to help him or handle the situation. Where do I start, who do I speak to?