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Original poster

To feel a little resentful about DH time away from baby

15 replies

Pokemonlovepower · 23/02/2018 21:30

Right so part of this is my doing but part him so I acknowledge my part in all this!!
My baby has never taken a bottle. Being nearly 6 months now, finally on started solids since 5 months and noticeably leas attached to my boobs!
Anyway, since the baby has been born , I've visited my family up in Scotland (about 4.hours from us) about 4 times a week at at time (without him). Hes had at goos few. Weekends wear he's gone to see a dj or met up with his parents to see a film etc. And I've said I'm fine. But focusing on the baby/being attache'd I was!
But he never tried the bottle with her no matter how much I asked and now I'm feeling resentfull that he's not tried that side enough. Overall he's had over a month of time without rhe baby and he got arsey when I asked to go see a film I wanted to "because he was tired from work"...
AIBU /ungrateful cos hee does work hard to provide for us but feel like I need some me time / he needs to be alone with her longer than 2 hrs x

OP posts:
GertrudeCB · 23/02/2018 21:38

Yanbu at all. He needs to step up and parent his child.

Original poster
Pokemonlovepower · 23/02/2018 21:51

**(I've been 4 times, each time a week at a time) x

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WorkingBling · 23/02/2018 21:56

I think blaming him for not trying harder with the bottle is pointless. But at 6 months you should absolutely be able to go see a film. He’s being a dick.

RemainOptimistic · 23/02/2018 22:06

Don't ask. Expect.

That's his child

seven201 · 23/02/2018 22:31

Great be him two options for which evening is ok with him for you to go out. Don't frame it in a way of asking if it's ok, just when specifically it's ok. You go and enjoy the film.

mehhh · 23/02/2018 22:49

I'm in the same boat as you at the moment! I feel like I'm constantly frustrated by the fact I have to ask/make arrangements to do anything.

Yanbu

Allthewaves · 23/02/2018 22:51

Did u go out and leave him with the baby so he could try a bottle

Iloveacurry · 23/02/2018 22:56

No you’re not being unreasonable. You should be able to go and see a film and leave him to parent his child!

LouHotel · 23/02/2018 22:56

Yanbu, hopefully your getting 2 to 3 hours between feeds so its not even necessary for baby to take a bottle you can go see your film.

Feed baby, hand her over and go have a break.

My DH fully accepts he got an easy ride with both our babies because of breastfeeding so didnt have to do the night feeds. He made up for it bu taking the lead in potty training.

Quartz2208 · 24/02/2018 08:20

Does he ask you? I suspect no. Just tell him he is the dad not a babysitter

Original poster
Pokemonlovepower · 24/02/2018 20:32

I don't know how to go about it without sounding like a bossy bitch xxxx

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Idontdowindows · 24/02/2018 20:41

"I'm going to the film tonight, she's just been fed, so she won't need a feed until I get back, and if she does come just try the bottle. See you later!"

Quartz2208 · 24/02/2018 20:45

How does he tell you

RemainOptimistic · 02/03/2018 06:54

What's wrong with sounding like a bossy bitch? Is that an insult he's used to put you in your place?

You are going to have to stand up for your child throughout its life, starting right now to protect the mental health of its mother. Get a grip.

Longdistance · 02/03/2018 06:59

Just throw her at him. Run out the door, tell him to have fun Grin go see your movie.

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