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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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my day today was shit!!

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donners312 · 22/02/2018 21:18

shouldn't probably post and sure its not as crap as some peoples but....

DS been a nightmare, wouldn't go to his school holiday camp as he didn't like it - i had to go to work felt like was having a nervous breakdown!!

DD lying on sofa complaining she's ill etc but just being a teenager.

Ex taking me to court - again!!

Work - arghhh!!

I just can't cope my life is rubbish - honestly!! I know i shouldn't complain i know i am lucky really ..... I am tired and fucked off though i really am

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saladdays66 · 22/02/2018 21:20

It does sound pretty crap, and you are allowed to complain about if, of course you are! Is there anything we can help with, or do you just want to vent?

Teens can be hard work. Why is your ex taking you to court? Sounds stressful.

Have some and

PeerieBreeks · 22/02/2018 21:27

It might not be as crap as some people's day, in fact it's pretty guaranteed not to be.

But that's ok, this is your shit day, and you are allowed to moan about it. And it's definitely more shit than mine. It really does sound like a shit day.

I'm about to pour some wine, would you like one?

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donners312 · 22/02/2018 21:31

ah you are both so nice - I would definitely like to have some wine!!

Teenagers are so stressful.

He is taking me to court because the kids won't go to see him (don't blame them) and he won't come here to see them? That apparently is parental alienation and me stopping him seeing them because obviously there is nothing i like more than spending 24 hours and ay 365 days a year with my kids - i would hate a break. Although to be fair he is an abusive twat so ops won't force them to go.

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AdoraBell · 22/02/2018 21:38

Sounds tough, have a 🍷

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donners312 · 22/02/2018 21:39

ha ha thank you! Love mums net!!

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Alison100199 · 22/02/2018 21:41

Sorry to hear that. from me too.

MrsWhirly · 22/02/2018 21:41

A bit of complaining is good for your soul! Sounds like a challenging day, fresh start tomorrow x

frasier · 22/02/2018 21:42

Did DS go in the end? And if so, was it as bad as he thought?

moodyblues · 22/02/2018 21:43

Sounds hideous, hopefully tomorrow will be better!

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donners312 · 22/02/2018 21:43

oh no they haven't seen their "Dad" for nearly a year and i have offered to take them to see him but the twat hasn't replied and i know he won't. It isn't about seeing them he just wants to take me to court again!! I know that makes no sense - it doesn't to me either

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frasier · 22/02/2018 21:45

Hope you have all the emails and texts prepared showing how you offered.

He sounds like a twat.

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donners312 · 22/02/2018 21:45

thank you all so much - i hate to be a whnger!! But love Mumsnet as you get the instant chat of friends!! without driving them mad!!

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donners312 · 22/02/2018 21:46

I do have everything but we have been to court so many times and in my experience the court couldn't care less!!

He seems to think i will be hauled off to jail or fined and how that helps the DC I have no idea considering he doesn't want them and hasn't paid maintenance for 3 years os we are already screwed financially!!

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Twoo · 22/02/2018 21:47

Working mums are true hero’s

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donners312 · 22/02/2018 21:51

ah thank you - I feel i don't deserve this.

I d 100% of the childcare and i am 100% financially responsible although he will have to pay CM anyway.

why do i also have to facilitate the contact - he can come here if he wants to see them?

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Knittedfairies · 22/02/2018 21:58

So what does your ex get out of all this, apart from being a right royal PITA for you? Or is that it...

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donners312 · 22/02/2018 22:01

this is what i can't understand.

He really doesn't appear to care about the DC or seeing them? If he did he could just come and see them.

He is with a millionaire and they have an incredible lifestyle and always on holiday - i would be happy if he just went off with her and left us alone, But he won't ?

I don't think there is any logical thought in his head from the past three years of experience. I just want him to go away.

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GiddyGardner · 22/02/2018 22:16

Ok, so you have had a shit day, we all have them (in varying degrees), but yours has been pants today. And that's what matters now. It's ok to feel down about it.

You can't change the ex, but you have to fight the unreasonable behaviour, I don't know much about that sort of stuff, so can't advise, but get angry...I understand that helps! But what I can say is ...look at how far you have come, look at how you have all survived and got through today and everyday, still going forward - all knowing that you have a loving, safe, reliable family and place to come home to. Tomorrow is a fresh day. You are a warrior. You are all warriors (and survivors). Celebrate the seemingly small, but really, really important things, they are truly massive and something to be really proud of; those kind of things will get you all through one day/month/year at a time. Have a movie night with popcorn or a PJ day, you all deserve it. All the best. xx

PeerieBreeks · 22/02/2018 22:33

Ah yeah, it's always mum's fault.

It was my fault that my kids didn't want to see their dad too.

Nothing to do with constant conspiracy theories, druggie friends and no food in the house at all...

Yep, this is your fault.

saladdays66 · 22/02/2018 22:34

Your ex sounds like a right dick. He’s missing spending time with his wonderful dc - and why?

Apply to CMS for maintenance from him. Surely the court case won’t work if the dc are old enough to say what they want to do, and you can show you have been reasonable??

Agree with giddy too :)

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