To think this can never work?

[hoolishoe]

Posting here for traffic...apologies.
I'm in a new relationship and something has come up, or rather has failed to come up, that could pose a problem.
The guy I'm seeing is very passionate and seems to have a high sex drive. We enjoy the same things in bed and on paper should be having the time of our lives together. But...I think he may have performance anxiety. Possible ED and maybe a sex addiction.
He told me, before we had sex, that it takes him absolutely ages to cum. And then told me a day or two later that he likes to have sex three times a day ideally.
Now, forgive me...but isn't that an awful lot of shagging? I love sex but I don't want to spend every day of my existence on my back or pinned to the kitchen counter.
When we went to bed the very first time it was unplanned. He wasn't expecting us to have sex on this particular occasion but he failed to maintain an erection, and what he did achieve was fairly flaccid in my opinion.
The reason I mention about the first time being unplanned, is because I wondered if he needed to take something to assist with his erection.
But then he masturbated for me during a video chat and went from flaccid to fully hard in just a few seconds.
Maybe he just doesn't fancy me, but what do you think? Is it just performance anxiety? And if so, once he's overcome it can a relationship with a person who needs to much sex ever work in the real world?

Oh gawd just give this one a swerve.

Porn addict, I'd happily bet my house. So it's standard grunt fantasy land - 'I like to shag THREE TIMES A DAY!' but actually can't manage normal sex with a real person. However, draft in his familiar best friend Mr Right Hand, and it's noooo problem at all.

:( sad. But just not worth the bother really.

It would take an awful lot of work which would require him to wean off the pron so that he gets used to normal stimulation and pressure, not the 'death grip'

And more than that, there's the issue of - do you want to be with a man with such a skewed idea of what good sex is? Because he has no idea about good sex. No idea.

He's hooked on porn and can't become aroused with a regular woman. Leave him to it.

I never even considered that he might be addicted to porn. 🤔

If you really like him I wouldn't write him off as a porn addict right away. An ex of mine struggled to maintain an erection the first few times we had sex, and it was pure anxiety. With time and patience he overcame it totally. The bragging about wanting lots of sex is a bit odd - maybe he's overcompensating for his anxiety?

What I would say is that it's worth having s conversation now about what your expectations are from a sexual relationship. You need to establish if there is a middle ground you're both happy with.

But Enuff, was he then keen to send you videos of him masturbating?

You only need to spend a short time on here to know that what OP describes is absolutely classic, and totally common, sadly - the casualties of the internet porn age. Upfront and happy to perform, full of bragging crapola about performance and giving the appearance of being highly sexed - basically, taking all their cues, all their sex education, really- from porn scenarios. That's what they think sex is like.

All of them, all of them find it difficult to have real sex - firstly, because it's not like a porn film, and secondly, they are so desensitised physically from a constant hard hand grip that actual sex isn't 'grippy' enough for them. Or they can stay hard and have sex for hours but can't come unless they masturbate hard. urgh.