Am I a dickhead or is he a selfish bastard?

[Justalittlelemondrizzle]

Today both dh and i have been to work today. I work while the dc's are at school so have also dropped them off and picked them up. Ive come home cooked everyones tea, sorted school bags/sports bags/lunchboxes for tomorrow and tidied the house. Dh got in before and is now watching the football after eating his tea. I dropped dd off at a club an hour ago and it's almost time for her to be picked up. I told him to pick her up as I have a headache, currently lay in a dark room mumsnetting. It's 10 minutes there and back max.
He started shouting at me, refusing to pick her up as he's watching the football, saying I do this on purpose and that I'm a dickhead etc and that no one else would make him do that!? I haven't asked him to pick his child up 'on purpose'. I called him a selfish bastard and made him go get her.

AIBU? Am I being a dickhead or is he?

If he becomes a dickhead when watching football, the obvious solution is that he should not watch football any more. That's what I do if my kids (5.5 and 2.5) get obnoxious while watching Paw Patrol. The level of maturity sounds similar.

Tell him to get a fucking grip. You’re not the only parent and he’s not a bloody extra child for you to have to wipe his arse and do his duties.
What a twat

currently lay in a dark room mumsnetting.

Eye strain will do your headache the world of good hmm

Misses the point

He's being a dick

HIB an utter dick.

He's being a massive dickhead. He can put the radio coverage on in the car instead

LeighaJ

Why? Just record it and watch what you like. He'll just have to stay up later to watch it.

Yep, he’s absolute unreasonable. Does he often call you such horrible names?

He works at the 'office' more than 3 times your hours. I don't know why he's such a 'bastard', 'dickhead', 'prat', 'arse' etc as none of the posters know how the work is divided in your home.

DH took extended paternity when DC2 was born and I took a sabbatical with DC1. It worked for us that the one at home was the one doing most of the work in the home; why wouldn't it?

For what it's worth, I wouldn't believe that anyone's headache was particularly bad if they were sat in a dark room looking at a bright phone / iPad on MN.

Why is the OP more entitled to sit down than her husband is?

If he can't miss 10 minutes of football to see to children he has other issues in addition to being Dickhead

I don't think it was very nice of him to go when you've asked him because you're feeling poorly, if he can pause the match. I don't know whether it was a big game of a team he supports...?

That said I don't know how poorly you were or looked to him. I get regular migraines and headaches, when I have a full blown migraine I'm incapable of doing anything. But I also have a lot of headaches so a lot of the time I'm doing stuff for my dc with a headache so wouldn't be asking dh to collect my dc in this scenario.

In an ideal world he should have offered, and not grumbled when you asked. It sounds like his response was really OTT if he's called you a terrible wife and mother so for that alone I'd call him a dick. If he'd grumbled a bit but gone I think that is maybe pretty normal behaviour, not everyone is wonderfully helpful all the time.

I'm not a football fan but even I know pausing it (or any live sporting event) is a bit of a . Not that he should have shouted at you but from the way you've posted about him I wonder if he was responding in kind. You don't seem to like each other very much.

I've got a feeling that if this were the other way round posters would be lining up to accuse the DH of faking a headache to control the OP and spoil her enjoyment of the match. She'd probably be asked "does he have form for this".

Sounds like a twat

He should have gone. It was 10 minutes so he could easily have caught up. If it was the Man Utd game, it was dull as dishwater anyway.

He’s a dickhead. I work longer hours than he does and if DH asked me to pick the boys up from karate because he wasn’t feeling up to it, I’d already be finding the car keys and asking if I could pick him up some chocolate on the way back.

You may only work 16h a week paid but add up your unpaid childcare, housework, laundry and cooking and I suspect it comes to more than 50h.

DH does far more as the sahp in terms of hours than I do as the wohp. And I work 60h a week (though recently gone part time - down to 55).