This isn’t a post asking for answers, I’ve long since learnt there aren’t any, and the legal system doesn’t give a crap. (If you search my previous threads you can have a whole day’s reading material!) I’m just sitting here alone, crying for my babies and need to tell the whole world that exh is a twat.
Abusive exh has a shared care order. He gets more than 50% during he holidays to make up for me having them more during term time 
DC absolutely hate contact. DD went no contact almost a year ago now and exh fought for a bit, now doesn’t acknowledge her existence. However, exh says he’s let her have her own way, so he certainly won’t be doing it with DS. So DS is physically forced to go to contact.
DS came back crying after weekend contact, saying daddy was working so his brother had come to stay. Until recently he was a stranger, but it seems he’s doing this every holiday now. DC want to stay at home for their holidays, as they miss out on so much being with exh. Contact started again this morning and brother came to collect again. Exh is working both days he is due to have DS.
Now I know parents work, I actually work more hours than exh. He works three or four days a week, so it could have been arranged that he works the days he doesn’t have him?? I’m at home for the holidays and DS wants to stay at home, not sit in exh house with his uncle just for the sake of it. I tried to reason with exh last night, saying that DS wanted to stay home and I just got abuse.
It makes me so sad to see their childhood wasted like this. Physically forcing your child to go to contact is bad enough, but when it’s not even to be with their parent?!