Rude teenager....then blames me...

[GaynorGoodwin]

My DD is 18 and currently off from college on half term. She was due to go to the cinema with friends so I asked her if ‘she was ok for money’? I got a grunt but then put the tenner under her mouse on the desk. She then told me to ‘get out of the room’ when I enquirer what time she was going. I told her I thought her to be very rude and swiftly took the tenner back.

I honestly do not understand her attitude. She’s moody, rude, mostly stays in her pit of a bedroom and rarely is nice when spoken to. This all happened a few hours ago and we not spoken since.

Another friend is due to stay over this Friday night in the spare room and I was thinking of telling her she couldn’t due to her bad attitude. I am taking it too far or should I just ignore?

Anyone with advice please. Also I’m not well as I’ve had larngitis and I’m just so fed up....

Thanks all. My dad has just called in to see if I wanted the dog walking (he thought she’d gone out too) so I’ve talked with him and feel a bit better. He has tried asking her what’s wrong but she’s said very little and says she wants to be alone. It does appear there is an issue, not sure what but no doubt will come out eventually.

Still fed up as this attitude has to change but guess will have to wait and see, thanks for listening.

Teenagers are tough arnt they. With mine I try as far as possible to to treat them as I would any other grown up (i.e not let them take the piss) but at the same time you have to pick your battles. You cant stand for rudeness. imagine she's a real grown up and how you would respond to that behaviour and then take it from there with slight modifications for the sake of peace. But on YOUR terms.

Does she work?

Call Friday off. She is an adult and should be treayed like one. No other adult would be allowed to use your home as a hotel for friends if they told you to "get out". So no, no friend over, no money handouts, no nothing except basic food and shelter until she learns to play nice. 18 though? She sounds very immature.

Your DH didn't give her money did he? You have to both be on the same page or she may play you off against each other.

Tiggy ..agreed...apart from when rudeness is involved...the adult would just need to say...sorry...I'm ok...just need a little time...can we chat later.
Want to be treated as an adult...act like one...not a stroppy toddler

Sorry for the double post, don't know what happened there.

Honestly teenagers are such pr*cks. I have one. I’m assured it gets better. Have wine OP

I have one of these. I get reminded of how his Dad used to speak to me and it sets me off. I feel your pain. The older one was like it sometimes too but they both rarely see me angry unless they're rude. I think I'm a bit scary. It only comes out on special occasions

Funny enough you can still be 18 and have some respect. She's behaving likr a childish brat so treat her like one. Cancel Friday and let her know how rude she is.

I found backing off and not bothering works well.

Mine was I was such a good mum, she didn't have to work for anything, so I just stopped and let her get on with it.

Sounds like it could be boyfriend trouble. She may just want to be left alone. Yes she shouldn't be rude but I remember being grumpy when a relationship was over, I wasn't blatantly rude but I wasn't very nice. But I did tell my mum what was wrong.

To all those posters asking what her situation is - the OP says she's on half term from college.