How would you feel?

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Say your next door neighbour was a really good friend of yours, you then divorced your husband and moved out, your friend who lives next door is now friends with husbands new girlfriend. How would you feel?

I'd move away from all my friends and neighbours and get on with my life.

Depends.

If you divorced him (assuming no affair) then neither woman has done anything wrong.

It would also depend on whether she’d dropped as a friend.

I suppose it would depend onhow the divorce came about and how good a friend she was. Mainly I would think she's a friendly person who, pragmatically want to get on with her new neighbour.

But would you still be friends with the neighbour?

Man is truly awful and cheats on his wife with ow, then moves her in and wife's best friend befriends her- totally different scenario to befriending a new girlfriend after a mutually agreed divorce.

I’d think you can’t fault your neighbour for being neighbourly and if ther was no infidelity on his part with the girlfriend prior to the split then it’s fine.

Unsure why you’re not providing more context if you want an answer to your question

It's difficult, but life goes on. People never cease to amaze me !
I hope all this is soon behind you. 🌸

Would i stay friends with my x neighbor who has become matey with my x husband's girlfriend?

Um - depends on the circumstances.

Was it a messy unfriendly divorce?
Was it long ago?
Are you and x husband still at each other's throats?

I think it’s totally fine. Who says it’s not.

Depends on the context. If she has become friends because they are neighbours ans the gf wasn't involved in the split up, I can't see a problem.

I'm guessing you are the neighbour?

Yes, it wouldn't make a difference to me.

There's no cheating involved. Neighbour is the time of person who speaks to everybody, that's how I became friends with her. I can't help but to feel a bit awkward tbh. Maybe I'm in the wrong on this one

If the relationship is more neighbourly than really best pals, then you are very BU.
You can't expect people to hold grudges on your behalf.

I think you’re in the wrong and although I can see it would hurt it’s irrational.

Don’t let it get the better of you and ruin your relationship with her.

Friends as in going out together or friendly as in saying hello etc? I can see why the former would make you feel uncomfortable tbh.

I don't think I'd care.

She's behaving like an adult.

Friends as in going out together, doing things together not neighbour friendly. That's what I'm worried about, how do I know she's not telling her things I've shared with her?

If your husband's gf lives next door to her, I wouldn't expect neighbour to not be friends with her. That's unfair

I might not like it though.

It wouldn't bother me at all. I have a few friends who are still friends with my exH and his GF too. I think it's a good thing. Adult.

Obviously that's if it wasn't a really acrimonious split

Why would you think he's being indiscreet? Does she gossip with you about your ex and his GF?

Is your friend someone that would talk about you? Unless you speak to her and let her know this is troubling you, you'll drive yourself daft.