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What shall I do?

11 replies

whitemuha · 20/02/2018 08:22

hello,

My son who is 15yr has been missing since Saturday and is not answering to my messages. I have informed the police but they are very slow in trying to look for him.
It has been like living an endless nightmare and I really do not know what to do or what agencies can provide me with some support.
he might be groomed or influenced to do things.
it is nerve wracking.

just wondering if anyone can help.
thanks

OP posts:
DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 20/02/2018 08:27

Sorry for your worry. Flowers

What have you told the police?
Has he gone missing before? Has he got family/dad around nearby? Have you spoken to all his friends?

Is this totally out of character?
Tbh a streetwise kid who's at college and regularly goes off alone is much less at risk than a nervous immature teen who is not used to spending days away from parents.

I'm a cop and I'm very surprised to hear the police aren't interested. Unless they know something we don't, circumstances or more background.

LIZS · 20/02/2018 08:30

Does he use social media, can you identify his friends and see if he has been online. What makes you think he may have been groomed?

Original poster
whitemuha · 20/02/2018 08:48

Yes, the police are aware and at the moment only the missing people unit works on the case. So far, they have not been able to track his phone because they are still waiting for the permissions to do so.
he did once before and went for 3 days and we convinced him to return home. But we know that he was put in contact with gang members.

I fear that it might have been groomed. He uses social media not very often and his phone is switched off.

as for his friends most of them don't know his whereabouts.
he is not smoking, drinking or anything like that. He is a charming lovely boy who might be in great danger right now.
:(

OP posts:
Mrsknackered · 20/02/2018 08:50

Someone, somewhere knows where he is. Can you contact his friends, don't if you think it could endanger him (sorry)

ShatnersWig · 20/02/2018 08:57

Why do you think he could be being groomed if he is hardly ever on social media? Why would he being influenced to "do things"? How did a charming lovely boy suddenly get involved (or "put in touch" with gang members) when he disappeared last time?

There must be more to this than you are telling us, OP, and I, like a PP who is in the police, find this odd.

SparklyMagpie · 20/02/2018 08:58

I agree with you ShatnersWig

Snowysky20009 · 20/02/2018 09:00

Highly unusual for a teen to 'hardly use social media' in this day and age. Have you put out a request on Facebook for information, ans asked for it to be shared?
However, like others I'm guessing theres more to this story. Why did he go missing before?

dantdmistedious · 20/02/2018 09:02

Why did he go missing before? Where did he go then?

LastNightMyWifeHooveredMyHead · 20/02/2018 09:03

Hope you find him soon, OP Flowers

If he's done this before, he will be considered less "at risk" than a child doing it for the first time, but if MP are on the case, that's good news

SavageBeauty73 · 20/02/2018 09:13

Have you shared his picture and what he's wearing on social media? My friend's nephew was found that why.

I didn't understand the gang reference. Is he involved in gangs?

MrsDilber · 20/02/2018 09:33

I'd put a message out on Facebook. I'd be worried sick.

Ask the police again.

Being groomed is very specific. Being in a gang?? Maybe they know more. This bit sounds like trouble.

Why did he do it before?

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