WhatsApp group etiquette

[Eighttimeseight]

Someone close to me died. What do you think of people sending condolences on a WhatsApp group?

I think it's lazy and impersonal but perhaps this is the way these things are done now?

No, you phone, ask if they need help with anything and you send a card.
What is the world coming to?

I never ring people, ever. Not even my closest friends.

But at the same time I wouldn't send condolences by WhatsApp. I'd send a card. Or if I am close to the person I would call to the house for the wake.

Sorry for your loss, OP

Yes, I'd generally agree with you that condolences in a WhatsApp group are lazy and impersonal, but these were your DH's sisters in law, so I'd be inclined to cut them some slack as the relationship, I imagine, is fairly distant to begin with.

I think your own relationship with the deceased also some difference: sister, WhatsApp message definitely inappropriate; second cousin you hardly ever saw, WhatsApp message is fine.

I’m sorry for your loss.

If I’m honest OP when I had a devastating loss last year I appreciated anyone who took the time to message me, whether it was by text, card, Facebook. It really was the thought that counted. Informal communication is so prevalent now and I’m sure your SILs didn’t mean to upset you.

My mother died. I felt so lonely. A what app message from someone who could have called me would have been meaningful. No, what's app hearts ❤️ for anyone with an ounce of compassion