To be annoyed that everyone thinks I'm a taxi service?

[ExhaustedAndHormonal]

So only been Driving around 4 years. And. Since then my DM and best mate assume I'll drive them everywhere, Asda. City centre etc etc. Now at first I didn't mind.. Probably the novelty.. But I never get offered fuel money, my car drinks alot on the stop start journeys and I seem to be going thro more fuel now than commuting to work. Its never a quick, let's do Asda, its shall we stop in the range, b&m, Wilko etc too.. Which are all about a 2 mile drive from each other so lots of city centre traffic stop start etc..
Today for instance I did my shopping. Then my friend rang and said could I take her grocery shopping tomorrow as she can't be arsed to go when her DH gets in as would. Mean taking her kids.. I stupidly said yes even though I didn't have to go myself. As I went today, after a long wait up hospital then sch run with dc in tow which he's a teen so not hard (but constantly wants hahaha so drives me a. Tad loopy)

Now maybe it's me and yes I know I need to start saying no.
But I'm also 38 weeks pregnant, had a few scares etc lately ( hence hospital today) and could do without all the extra hassle..
Dp is constantly saying I should stop driving soon as pretty uncomfortable and my belly is pretty much touching steering wheel ( short legs s so can't put seat back), andv he worries. And always gets cross that I do the shopping without him ( not in a horrible way, in a caring way),

So tempted from this weekend to agree with dp and park the car up and leave it. . Then I have reason to say no without feeling awkward

I only really use car for sch run and food shop since mat leave, However DS can do the 40 min walk with mates. And if pissing down then if needed I could whizz him there on odd occasions

I suggest you "lose" your car keys for a while

you need to say no.
It is fine to say no, give your self permission to say no!

You actually have a great excuse - I have stopped driving as I can't fit behind the wheel. That will break the habit, and once baby comes along, you can just say no!

At 38 weeks pregnant people should not be asking you for favours! Just tell them you aren't driving as it's uncomfortable because you're so heavily pregnant and suggest a bus service!

What?mstop using your own car at your own convenience just so you can get out of giving endless lifts to ‘friends’? No way, unless you genuinely want to stop.

Text round saying you are very tired and suffering from backache etc and you’ve decided you won’t be able to help with ad hoc lifts any more. Make a joke about ‘please don’t ask as refusal may cause offence.’ If necessary blame your midwife or dh.

Then simply never resume this nonsense. Emergencies considered but general taxiing, no way.

The only way it will change is if you start saying no. You have the perfect reason to do so now without it seeming bitchy too so even better

Just say sorry no I’m not going today! Your friend is very cheeky to ask. Can’t she get a delivery if she can’t drive?

Neither dm.or friend drive.

I am considering stopping due to lack of belly / steering wheel space. Especially for things like motorway driving ( one supermarket is via motorway)
Have already agreed to tomorrow but yes I know I need to say no.. Normality with anything else in life I am. Outspoken but for some reason if its to ' help' someone just find myself saying yes? :(

Will chat with dp later aswell and see what he thinks.. Altho I know what hell say lol

Start saying “no”.

Get your shopping delivered online and recommend to your friend does the same.

IMO anyone who asks her 38 week pregnant friend to drive her rather than waiting until her own car is available is a very poor friend indeed.

Even before you got to the bit where you said you were 38 weeks pregnant I thought YANBU!

Quite apart from the petrol its a bit of a PITA to be always running other people around here there and everywhere. I think sometimes non-drivers do not realise this.

By all means use your pregnancy as the reason it must stop and then in future make sure you do not resume these lifts and let yourself become their default taxi.

I can still shop as dp will drive so I don't need to do online to be fair but always a good. Idea.

And totally agree the more I think about it the more I get annoyed

Yes I will be as no way am I dragging a baby out here there and everywhere couped up in car to please everyone else.
If I was going and I offered that's s fair enough as going anyway but I will definitely be stopping. To be fair the weather will improve so will walk most places with the pram as family all live fairly near.

Bloody hell - say no! And same as above, that’s before you said you were 38 WEEKS pregnant!!! Practice now - no no no (doctor says no....)

Point your friend in the direction of online grocery shopping.

I sometimes give thanks that I have not encountered these types of CFs in my life to date. Please, please, PLEASE start prioritising yourself.

tell them that youre putting a stop to giving people lifts as youre finding its far too often and intruding into your free time and youre exhausted. Please can everyone make their own arrangements

I hate supermarket shopping so no way would I happily take other people to shop there.

My DM passed her driving test in an automatic car aged 60.

Your friend and your Mum will just have to go back to doing whatever they did before you learned to drive.

Tell them to pay for a bloody taxi or learn to drive, cheeky sods.

Whilst you're in the right frame of mind, send a text round to say that since it's getting impractical for you to drive you won't be offering lifts for the foreseeable future.

Leave it at that, don't let anyone try and weasel round getting a date from you when you'll be driving again. Once you've had a few weeks off ferrying them around they'll be less lazy about assuming you've nothing better to do.

Text your friend and cancel tomorrow. Just say no!!

The friend who asked you to take her supermarket shopping so she didn't have to take her kids - she's asking you to spend two hours going to a supermarket you don't need to go to to save her the hassle. Don't let people treat you like a doormat.

Well I've said no.. I'm knackered and need to chill.. So I text and said I couldn't do it.. She called back and was like. ' ill be quick' no sorry I haven't showered yet as only just s got motivated. So I want to Chill out.!
She's not happy = not my problem to be fair.

Well done. I was going to suggest you text her and say you don't feel well and therefore can't do it. Cheeky bitch has got no business being annoyed. Sounds like she has gotten used to taking you for granted and it's time you put a stop to it. Lets see how much of a friend she is when you aren't constantly doing her favours.

Well done for say saying no! You're 38 weeks! And even if you weren't, they shouldn't treat you like a taxi service. The odd lift would have been fine but they are taking the piss.

And don't start again, let them get a taxi.

Are they cheeky fuckers in other ways?