AIBU to buy my own engagement ring?

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Recently I saw a ring. I've never fallen in love with a piece of jewellery before, but wow, I adored it. I may have walked past the jewellers window a few times over the next few weeks (occasionally stealing the odd wistful glance), and one time I noticed it was 20% off. Amazing!

Now, I'm a fairly "shit, or get off the pot" kind of person but my boyfriend, well, isn't. We moved in together last year and it's all been going well, and even before that we'd discussed marriage. I have no doubt that he's the one.

I love this ring, and I just know I'd never be able to find any other as gorgeous and as 'me', although obviously it's the thought and gesture behind it which matters most. I've talked about it with my boyfriend, and his view was "whatever you want to do".

WIBU to buy the ring, and then our options are:
a) It stays in a drawer somewhere until he's ready to pop the question (I really don't mind if that's months or years away)
b) He might get scared by what I did, in which case I'd be more than happy to wear it on my right hand as 'just a ring' (it's not your stereotypical engagement ring)

But he hasnt even asked her to marry him or mentioned it so no it isn't an engagement ring.

Wasn't an engagement ring typically given as if the man broke off the engagement the woman could keep it as compensation for her lost reputation/whatever?
This is 21st century. You want a ring? Buy a ring. You want to get married? Propose marriage.

Buy it just because you love it. Can you afford it?

PS, my mum eyed up a ring for about two years in one of the local jewellers, walked past it constantly in the window, looked at it, said how much she loved it and wanted it. And then it came on offer online with a 30 day money back guarantee so she bought it from there. And didn’t like it once she had it in the flesh so to speak. .

So I’d start by going to try it on and then go from there.

Buy it, but not as an engagement ring but as a dress ring.

Too many ‘buts’! Sorry!

@Willswife

That's a really good idea, thank you!

Nooooooooo!!!!! If you like the ring buy it but not as an engagement ring. It's just wrong and contrived.

Buy it!

Oh and if you want to marry him, ask him! Why are you waiting for him?

You want a ring? Buy a ring. You want to get married? Propose marriage.

This^

See I'm always of the view that the woman should propose, if she really wants to get married.

But there's something here that I can't quite put my finger on, that makes me feel uncomfortable about whether her boyfriend really wants to get engaged at this point and whether the OP really would be happy to wait "months or years", with that ring burning a hole in the drawer.

Get it. Without a shadow of a doubt, get it!!

Also, post a picture on here please!

Buy it, wear it on your right hand and enjoy it. If you decide to get engaged or married, transfer it to your left hand if it's the still the one for you.

Nothing's right or wrong, it's no one else's business and you don't have to say anything to anyone.