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AIBU to have a fear of being stalked by...?

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oneinthebox · 18/02/2018 21:07

I'm an Indian and I live in a literally non-Indian mono-racial area where it's unusual to see any foreigners whatsoever. My parents have a history of getting friends/relatives to stalk me and spy on me, though I've learnt now that it's only ever other Indians who do the dirty work.

I go to a cafe everyday, after work, from where I send emails and finish off my work. I went to the cafe a couple of days ago and there were a couple of Indians sitting near where I sat. I thought it was really unusual so I decided to go to the toilet for five minutes, and by the time I came back, they were gone! It reminds me strongly of the time my parents used to spy on me and stalk me, and I've just been having a hard time arguing with them recently.

Am I overreacting? If you think I am, is there anything I can do to cure myself of this fear of being stalked? I have never told them where I've lived but they may have been nosy....who knows!

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Fairenuff · 18/02/2018 21:10

You think your parents are spying on you?

BuckwheatBertha · 18/02/2018 21:12

Sounds like a normal reaction rather than paranoia to me if they've got form for doing it. What do they want?

oneinthebox · 18/02/2018 23:01

@Fairenuff I am sure my parents would love to spy on me if they could, they certainly used to do it during my childhood, but now I have no idea if they have been spying on me or not.

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Fairenuff · 19/02/2018 07:39

Is it only this one time that you've seen these people? I think it's a bit much to think your parents sent them tbh. It might just be a coincidence.

oneinthebox · 22/02/2018 02:46

@Fairenuff Yeah. That what's going through my mind too, that I'm just overreacting. But then I think it might be an issue that I should seek advice/help with, because it's obviously some sort of trauma/phobia.

I haven't seen them again but I just found it really weird. Especially since they left so suddenly after I arrived. I've been thinking of making police reports for the sake of collecting evidence for these situations.

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user1497863568 · 22/02/2018 09:15

Your parents don't know where you live? The spying thing is quite common - my daughter has come home from school telling me about friends who've had extended family/friends follow them in malls etc. They want to make sure they are not getting 'into trouble with boys'.

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