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Rumandcokepleasesir · 18/02/2018 01:14

I've been diagnosed with anxiety so I don't know if I'm overthinking and I need a dose of man the fuck up. Or if I have a right to feel a little bit hurt?

me and best friend have been friends for over 30 years. I'm single mum who's left a career to raise my 2 kids. She's just starting out in her career.
.I have 2 children under 3( she don't want kids) and I think she thinks because I'm not working I have loads of time to sit and do all the stuff she needs doing. She will just call and ask me to do something (usually what is pretty time consuming) and because I know she's stressed I've tried to help her as much as I can!
I've sat and filled out job application after job application for her, made her CV. Spent quite a number of hours sat at the laptop filling out all her forms when she landed her dream job all the while I have two demon children to look after. Listened to her cry horrendously down the phone about how a close friend of hers had really let her down and so forth
This has all been in the past 4/5 months. I obviously don't mind helping her and don't give to receive so to speak but I thought friendship was about helping each other out or am I Just being a sad act.
I moved home last week. My stress levels were seriously through the roof. I only have my mum to help me and she works full time. I had my old home to pack up and then move to the new house. I wasn't sleeping as I had that much to do and neither were the kids.
I called my bf and asked if she would mind giving me a hand moving some stuff to the new house as I don't drive. To which I got no reply at all till the next day saying she had a migraine which is fair enough. I then asked if she would mind helping me on the actual day of the move for an hour (nothing major- I'm aware people have their own lives) to which she said she was taking her parents out. Fair enough but then I later find out she was out with the friend who had let her down and who said she was trying to distance herself from and I didn't get so much as a text from her.

I realise I probably sound like a kid but I'm just feeling pretty alone right now and don't know if I'm within my rights to be a little bit hurt by her or am I just being overly tired and a little bit petty?

OP posts:
Ryder63 · 18/02/2018 08:50

OP fuck her off. Your "friend" simply isn't a friend - just a user.

Funky - Biscuit

Ellendegeneres · 18/02/2018 09:00

funky I’m a single Mum who’s left a career. Yes I claim benefits- So what? Want to have a crack at single parents unable to work instead of having a go at the fathers who have equal say in making those children but refuse to support adequately thereby making it almost impossible for the resident parent to continue with their former career?
you’re really original, know that?

Op she’s using you. I’m sorry. You need to start being unavailable to her

Only1scoop · 18/02/2018 09:08

Completely one way traffic how bloody selfish of her.

Please don't carry on doing all these things for her she's taking advantage of you massively.
Thanks

UnmitigatedBollocks · 18/02/2018 09:13

Good grief tell her to fuck off! 😡

Rumandcokepleasesir · 18/02/2018 09:48

Thankyou everyone!

I was expecting to get a right royal roasting telling me to man up and that I was being a sap as I've got a habit of overthinking things a lot.

I'm lucky I do have a handful of close friends I can count on but I HATE asking anyone for help. The only reason I asked her was she was the one suggested that she would give me a some help when I needed it.

OP posts:
Jaygee61 · 18/02/2018 10:22

She has been using you as her PA. She's a selfish C.F. and you need to start saying no. Good luck with it!

pictish · 18/02/2018 13:29

It’s fine OP...just stop doing shit for her now. Be busy, unavailable or simply tell her you don’t have the time or energy. You can still be friends but you need to even up the balance so you’re not doing all the giving. If I were you I’d cut right back on the favours and errands for her...I couldn’t be made a mug of and keep that shit up.

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