Does anyone else struggle to sleep if dp is out?

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Is it just me?

Dp is out for the night with his mates. I'm here with dd who is fast asleep in her room. I am absolutely knackered after being up since 4:30 But I just cannot sleep. And it's worse because I know I won't be able to until dp gets home.

This happens everytime he goes out! I just can't relax

If I know he’s not coming home I’m fine. If I’m waiting then I can’t sleep at all, I think it’s a mix of knowing I’ll be woken up and not being able to lock up properly

If you were a single parent you wouldn't be waiting for someone to come home surely.

I'm the same, if DP is away for the night, or several, I sleep perfectly well and enjoy taking up the whole bed. I actually love it but pretend to have missed him loads If he's out for the evening I don't sleep well until he's home because of the anticipation of being woken up and disturbed when he comes in. He's very considerate and quiet but we live in a flat where you have to walk past both bedrooms to get to the living room from the front door so it's inevitable. Thankfully the kids are heavy sleepers so they don't get woken.

I don't think it's ideal to be so anxious and stressed by poor DH going out for a few but there's not much more I can do about it unless the NHS fancies funding me for a lengthy course of therapy - and they won't. And to be honest I don't think they should - I manage my anxiety pretty well through all sorts of self-care practices, this is just something that's really hard for me for some reason.

If I were a single parent then I wouldn't be worried about him and waiting for him - it's not the being alone that's the problem, it's the catastrophizing about him that stops me sleeping. Though I'm sure if I were a single parent I'd have plenty of other things to keep me awake and anxious.

I get what you mean.

DH works really late most weekends, tonight he’ll be in at about 2am. But I’ll go to bed just fine (once I’ve dragged myself away from here).

If he’s out with mates or whatever it’s the not knowing that makes me not settle. Could be 11pm, could be 3am. Not that I’m bothered, it’s simply the uncertainty.