To be sad about how hard it is when your parents aren't around to see their grandchildren

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I know IANBU, but just feeling sad tonight.

DD is 2.5 and new baby is due soon, all being well. We're lucky in many ways, but the loss of my DM when I was quite young means that she's missed out on the main thing she wanted - grandchildren

I just keep getting these waves of sadness at the moment about what she's missed, and what they've missed. She would have loved every hair on DD's head (even when the little beast is pouring her dinner on the floor or something!) and as an infant teacher she would have been brilliant with her. I'm sad that I've missed out on seeing them together. So many of my friends rely on their mums for childcare and seeing their kids with their grandmas always gives me a pang. And I want my mum there for the upcoming birth too 😭😭

My MIL and my DF are brilliant but - it's not the same as your mum, is it? DF has never changed a nappy in his life!!

Sorry to waffle, just really feeling it tonight and thought there would be other posters who would sympathise!

My dad died when DD1 was 15 months. He utterly adored her. I had DD2 last week and have had to block out thinking about him so I could function but reading this thread has set me off. He would have been just as besotted by his new granddaughter and it breaks my heart he never got to meet her or really get to know DD1 and neither of them will remember him. It's bloody hard.

My DF died aged 54, he never met my DC. DM was killed in an accident aged 69 last year, the day before DS2 started secondary school. DS1 was 13. They've been so brave. She was in their lives one minute and gone the next. No other family in the county now. PIL are great but very staid and not great 'fun'. It's hard.

My dad died 5 years ago, and my mum died 2 years ago when her long, long, long awaited granddaughter was just 4 months old.

I choke on the injustice of it sometimes. I cry for my loss, but I cry more for my daughter because she will grow up without the love and affection of her grandparents.

for everyone who has lost family.

Having DC makes you realise there is never a good time to go, it’s always too soon.
I want to see my kids grow, I know if i’m lucky enough to see my Gkids born i’ll Want to see them grow and a friend has just had her first DC and her grandmother died a week later and I realised even as a great grandmother it was a blessing to have had that week with baby.

My father died 3 weeks ago. My birth children are pretty much grown and seeing their grief has been hard but they have their memories. But he will not see my (adopted ) 3 yr old grow up.
I cant allow myself to think about it yet. I feel so numb. It hasnt even begun to sink in that he is gone. I have no family living near and havent had for years and it is so hard standing on your own 2 feet with no family to call on.

🌻🌷 for everyone.

I feel the same - my Dad would have adored DS, and would have phoned all the bloody time to hear how he was doing. I'd give anything for that 😢.

YANBU, my sis and I have lost both our parents, I had two young DC who miss their Nonna and Grampy dreadfully, my sis recently had her first and it is hard for ME knowing he will never meet them, can't imagine how my sis feels. At least my DC have memories of how awesome they were.

We are going to get a book printed of photos of them, with comments and stories narrated by my DC about their memories of their grandparents and how they were, so DN will have something to give him a 'flavour' of them as he grows up.

Not unreasonable at all, my Fad missing my babies growing up eats away at me some days. It can knock you sideways. Lots of love x