To get so irritated by people claiming to be "spiritual, not religious"

[spillanthes]

Some people are genuinely spiritual but not religious, I'm thinking an atheist/agnostic who meditates (?)

But it really fucks me off when a blatantly evangelical Christian claims to be "not religious"

Scenario: "are you religious?"
"No, not at all"
.... conversation continues

Then "I really love Jesus"

Well why didn't you fucking tell me that before I agreed to a date!

It's not just Christians though, other men have done it... turned up and not been able to 'go for a drink' as they don't actually drink and neglected to say they also can't eat anything but halal food

And work colleagues

And argh 😤 just blinking be upfront! What is with this pretending you're not?!!!!

Let them eat sootikins.

They know it will put you off so they lie. I'm unsure how on earth they think that you won't be cross that they lied so blatantly though.

Yes. The lie is so blinking deceitful.

They can waffle about not conforming to organised religion, or the church but only the bible and Jesus all they like... thus not being religious

To everyone else the word "religious" still covers them!!!

You don't have to be religious to love Jesus.

My understanding is that being spiritual means you're pursuing your own truth, rather than that of others (religious).

That's really weird, it means they are dating someone who isn't a Christian. And that they lied about being a Christian

Whats in the bible that they could use that way anyway? Its basically the 10 commandments (ie The Law) and Jesus. So they are basically saying 'I'm really law abiding and also identify with being the son of God'.
Or 'I wont kill you but I might be a bit judgemental if you do something I dont like'.

Following a religion isn't the same as being religious. I think the word religious has negative connotations and is associated with being "holier than thou" and pious.

I believe in God but I wouldn't describe myself as religious.

Correct SandAndSea.
My ExP's mom is Christian, dad is African Traditionalists, Grandparents are Muslim. As a result, he doesn't particularly follow one religion but believe in spiritual things so he takes on the spiritual aspects. He'll happily fully engage in Mass and Eid. That sorta thing.

TBH, my mum has been "spiritual, not religious" for years and it's meant she has been agnostic and into woo stuff.

Lately it's really taken over and become more like a religion. Even though she wouldn't talk about God and Jesus.

If you can't be arsed with religious stuff then steer clear of anyone describing themselves as "spiritual" as well.

I’m a Christian who goes to church and I must admit I don’t know what to say when someone asks if I’m ‘religious’.
When I have said ‘yes I am religious’ I then have to watch them recoil in horror as they start to imagine exactly what I’m like (I drink, I swear, I’m not particularly pious), so there imaginings are probably incorrect.

I tend to say ‘I believe in God’... and if they ask more Il chat about it.

I would quite enjoy a date with someone spiritually minded. Or can happily chat to openly believing individuals about their faith etc

The whole no I'm not religious but then "let me tell you how much I love Jesus" grates on me.

You could say "I don't want to define myself as religious but yes I am passionate about Jesus"

Rather than "no I'm not religious at all" and then oh so cleverly schedule it for bringing it up later

My understanding is that being spiritual means you're pursuing your own truth, rather than that of others (religious).

That’s my interpretation of it as well. I really don’t know what you were expecting but if you don’t want to accidentally go out with a Christian, it might be better to specify in your profile what exactly are you looking for

There is a difference between being religious and being spiritual. Next time just ask them about it. Maybe what you thought was something actually isn't.

What is your definition of spiritual?

An atheist would have no business being spiritual would they?

According to Wikipedia:
"Spiritual but not religious" (SBNR) also known as " Spiritual but not affiliated " (SBNA) is a popular phrase and initialism used to self-identify a life stance of spirituality that takes issue with organized religion as the sole or most valuable means of furthering spiritual growth.“

I assume it means that they believe in some sort of higher power but don’t follow organised religion.

My definition of "spiritual, but not religious"

Under no circumstances includes a bible bashing, preaching, can I lead you in the sinners prayer now? Type of person! If you're evangelising, fucking don't claim to be "completely non religious"