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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

Original poster

People that owe you money..

15 replies

ThisLittleKitty · 17/02/2018 11:29

That haven't paid it back yet. I lent a friend some money as she claimed to be broke but is now on holiday (so not that broke.) anyway she said she would give it back to me on Thursday night when she gets in however she didn't. She went on holiday on Friday (last minute thing apparently and only mentioned it the day she was going.) anyway she's still not paid it back I feel really awkward bringing it up and safe to say I won't lend it again. Aibu to feel awkward about it?

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PlateOfBiscuits · 17/02/2018 11:30

Could you send her your bank details so she can transfer it without needing to meet up and give you the cash? That way there’s no excuse.

BigHoof · 17/02/2018 11:36

Don't feel awkward about asking. The CF is the one that should awkward.

BigHoof · 17/02/2018 11:37

*should feel awkward

TenancyTroublesAgain · 17/02/2018 11:38

SHE should feel awkward, not you!

Maybe send her your bank details and say can she pay you back asap.

Casmama · 17/02/2018 11:39

How much money are you talking about? If it’s a tenner then I think you are getting a bit worked up, if it’s £100 or an amount that leaves you short then she is a cheeky fucker.

PurpleDaisies · 17/02/2018 11:39

How much is it?

I’d send her a text with your bank details saying you don’t want this to affect your friendship and become awkward so you reallyneed that money back.

expatinscotland · 17/02/2018 11:42

Exactly what Purple wrote. Send her that. She's a CF. She's the one who should feel awkward, not you.

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ThisLittleKitty · 17/02/2018 12:03

It's £50 might not seem like a lot but I'm not actually rolling in it myself and wouldn't have lent her the money it was only because she was saying she's really needs it. Just feel annoyed that she said that day and hasn't and now it feels awkward to mention it.

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expatinscotland · 17/02/2018 12:15

It's a lot of money. And she should be feeling awkward, but she doesn't, because she's a CF. Send the text Purple sent.

Oldraver · 17/02/2018 12:20

So she went on holiday knowing she owed you money ? Sorry but that's CF territory.. She should be the one feeling awkward. People like this who are brazen to ask in the first place knowing they are not thta desperate, rely on you feeling awkward to ask for it back.

When is she back ? I would wait then ask her when she is back. Dont apologise or give reasons why you need it back, just ask if she wants to give you cash or if she wants your bank details

SundaysFunday · 17/02/2018 12:20

Text her: 'Hi, glad to see you're having a lovely holiday. I really need the £50 you owe me, here are my bank details, please can you transfer it to me today, thanks'

Oldraver · 17/02/2018 12:20

Sorry too many backs [oops]

FlouncyDoves · 17/02/2018 12:21

Never lend what you can’t afford to lose.

Sparklesocks · 17/02/2018 12:22

Yeah just be casual but clear about it - text something like ‘hi, hope you’re good! Holiday seems to be fun. Just to let you know my bank details are Xxx for you to transfer that £50 - thanks’

Thehogfather · 17/02/2018 17:27

text her and say you need it for this weeks groceries or because your direct debits etc will bounce. If she doesn't sort it immediately then you'll know where you stand.

I did solve this in a similar scenario where my polite requests were ignored by leaving it a few months and calling said person when I knew they were at a shopping centre, and asked them to pick up an item whilst they were there, and said I'd collect it later and give them the cash. And then on collection said 'oh, I nearly forgot, it's only 2.99 I owe because you still have that 30. Only works if you make the item believable and either awkward to get elsewhere or needed urgently, and if you can grit your teeth for a few months pretending not to be pissed off at her freeloading ways.

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