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To want so free time to stare at a wall of I wanted to

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tinatsarina · 17/02/2018 01:36

There is currently a thread in chat but I didn't want to hijack someone else's issue so I thought I'd post my own.

I have a three almost four year old. I work 9-5.30 in a daycare as room leader with 2-3 year olds. My partner works 8-4.30 in hotel maintenance.

I feel that I'm not engaging with my child the way my partner does emotionally. Yes I love him but after getting my own child dressed and out the door in the mornings then dealing with other people's kids during the day the last thing I want to do when I get home is to keep listening to a three year old. My partner says I'm always hiding in the kitchen making dinner, doing laundry, playing on my phone and that I'm ignoring my own child. Im also studying with open university and my only free time to do that is when my child goes to bed.

I feel so guilty that I'm not engaging with them but need tips on how to keep interested and alert I suppose once I'm home.

I've tried before but I feel like I'm almost still in work, I have to still be nursery worker even though I'm technically finished my shift otherwise I just shut down.

OP posts:
Tumbleweed101 · 17/02/2018 09:59

It is hard as everything everywhere seems to be about children! I find this a little but my children are older so it’s easier to have more grown up conversations now.

Does your child go to the nursery you work in?

ginghamstarfish · 17/02/2018 10:29

Sorry but the obvious answer is to look for a different job, isn't it? I know it's not easy, but if you're not dealing with kids all day then you would surely be much more engaged with your own at the end of the day.

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