I want my mum

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Minor operation, was knocked out, came round.

The above were the first words I uttered, mum died when I was 16, I am 33, we didn’t even get on very well.

What’s that all about?

You were at your most vulnerable.. hope your ok

Apparently my mum asked her her dad after a GA. he’d been dead 10 years (but were very close)

I asked for my mum when I came round from an operation in my late 30s but then I adore my mum and always want her when I’m poorly

General anaesthetic makes you feel weird. I remember crying and laughing as I woke up. Even if you weren't close you may still miss having someone to care for you when you need them. Hope you are OK.

So sorry to hear that - I also have lost my darling mum and even now, when times get tough and I'm feeling vulnerable, I just want my mum (and I am 50). Your mum died when you were at a difficult age (teenager) so maybe that's why you weren't getting on well? I don't know as obviously I don't know your story but just wanted to reply to you and wish you a speedy recovery after your operaton x

Im turning 30 soon and i have days where i just think i need my mum. Im a mother myself and dont know where this has come from but lately its become a daily occurance. I dont know why it comes into my head and i just think i wish she was here.

When DD got her diagnosis of ASD at age 14 I had to go back to work straight after. My manager asked me if she had got the diagnosis (we were expecting it) and I said yes and then in the middle of the office I burst into tears and wailed "I want my mum" - my mum had been dead 4 years at that point.

I think it's a natural thing. Not long before my nana died she was going in and out of consciousness and was asking for her mum. She was 91 when she died and was 14 when her mum died.

It is very strange. I wonder if there’s just a need to be mothered deep within us all. My dad was the more hands on parent anyway.

My Mum is, I believe, in the early stages of dementia. She is a happy atheist, no belief in the supernatural or an afterlife, but she now senses that her mother is waiting for her when she gets home or is around in her house.

Sometimes we just need that comfort.

I can recommend a good book called Motherless Daughters. I read it a few years ago and it put in words a lot of things I'd never really realised but made lots of sense. You're right we do all want mothering. I want my mum = I want a proper tv bisto ad mum, perhaps.

I hope you have a fast recovery

Anaesthetic and illness does funny things to your mind.

Years ago I was in hospital when I took a turn for the worse. Before I lost consciousness I was apparently quite hysterical that the staff needed to call my dad to look after me and call my mum to look after my dad. I was crying and shouting then passed out and ended up in intensive care.
When I came around I cried for my mum. She was just out of my line of sight next to my bed and I sobbed because I needed her then sobbed because she was there

Also, had a small operation a few years ago. Woke up giggling and asking when I could see my dog

I think in the back of your head, your parents job is to make you feel safe and secure, and that's exactly what you want when you're vulnerable

Had my wisdom teeth out under ga aged 25. Woke up crying for my mum, who was touched and said ‘darling, I’m here’ but I replied ‘no not you - my mum’. She’s a rational sort so just gave me a cuddle (but has brought it up since)

I have an elderly cousin (in her 80s) whose Mum died nearly 30 years ago. My sister went to see her before Christmas and apparently she kept saying how much she missed her Mum.

I think its a sense of grieving still. I lost my mum and dad and sometimes if im down or upset i just blurt out i want my mum. So hard at times and i did not get on well with my mum. But we miss they deep down

Giving birth both times I have cried out 'I want my Mum' I think PP saying it's when you're vulnerable is right. I lost my mum at 14 and miss her every day even though she was far from perfect. Hope you're ok OP

Very common sadly. My friend lost his mum 30 years ago and he said the same when he was very ill in hospital coming round. I haven't about mine (died seven years ago) but then I tend to wake up from anaesthetic feeling fine and of sound mind immediately so obviously I'm aware and don't say things like that. But lots of people with and without their mums still definitely want their mum when they're in fear or confused or in pain x

Aw poor you! Even if your relationship with your Mum wasn't great then she was probably around when you needed her as a baby and young child so it's probably due to that.

Mine died when I was a teenager as well. We had a difficult relationship and if she was alive realistically we'd be no contact. I think in the last few years I've missed what she should of been not who she was, I'm jealous of my friends and colleagues and friends who have parents who help them with practical and emotional things. Maybe you're similar even if it isn't conscious?

I work in healthcare and have seen men in their eighties cry for their mum. Mums make you feel safe and secure especially when vulnerable and I don't think age diminishes that.

Sorry to derail but would Motherless Daughters be good for someone who never had a Mother? Or Mother figure and is sad about it when they see the wonderful, loving relationships some Mothers and daughters have?

I love my mum but we are not very close. She never ever calls me and now I rarely call her. I used to see her 3/4 a year for a weekend but since my niece was born 15 months ago and lives 5 minutes from my parents, I see them much more often.

I was living 3 hours away from them when I found the body of my boyfriend, the first thing I asked the police was to tell my mum I needed her, she was there in under 3 hours (along with my dad, her sister and my godfather!!)