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To feel a bit awkward about this interview?

16 replies

Ginmakesitallok · 16/02/2018 21:13

I'm stepping into help a colleague with some interviews next week. I've just been sent the applications - and one of the interviewees is my next door neighbour. I've interviewed people I know before - but am feeling really uncomfortable about it. She won't be expecting me to be there. Do I warn her in advance? Or just be my normal professional self? Bugger

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Sparklingbrook · 16/02/2018 21:15

Is it because you think she wouldn't be good at the job?

Ginmakesitallok · 16/02/2018 21:16

If I'd been shortlisting I don't think I'd have shortlisted her - she doesn't have the experience needed. She's lovely though.

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Lalliella · 16/02/2018 21:16

Talk to HR and find out what the protocol is. Probably best if you don’t take part in the process I’d have thought...

MistyMinge · 16/02/2018 21:17

I'd pre warn her. It may totally throw her and make her fluff everything if she's shocked to see you. I think it's the fair thing to do. That's presuming you don't mind her getting the job.

Sparklingbrook · 16/02/2018 21:18

Oooh difficult. But she might be better than the others.

Mishappening · 16/02/2018 21:19

In the rural area where I live it is virtually impossible not to finish up interviewing people you know.

I think you should talk to the rest of the panel and let them know she is your neighbour.

Talkingfrog · 16/02/2018 21:19

Speak to HR. If your colleague is also interviewing then your colleague should interview her.

TheSnowFairy · 16/02/2018 21:20

I think you should say nothing to your neighbour but tell your colleague you can't participate in that interview.

Ginmakesitallok · 16/02/2018 21:21

It's not against protocol - interviewing people you know is pretty common. Don't know why this has thrown me - think it's because I never mix work with home life? I will tell other panel members though.

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halfwitpicker · 16/02/2018 21:22

You need to let your colleagues know that she's your neighbour.

Ginmakesitallok · 16/02/2018 21:23

It wouldn't bother me one way or the other if she got the job - not in my team

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smargolis · 16/02/2018 21:40

I would try to get out of this one!

HoHoHoHo · 16/02/2018 21:41

You could tell your employers that you feel it's too much of a conflict of interests. Maybe overstating your relationship with her if you have to.

Serin · 16/02/2018 21:44

I have been in this situation and decided to step away from the interview process.

Too much of a conflict of interest.

AvocadosBeforeMortgages · 16/02/2018 21:46

Talk to HR / colleagues. When someone I knew from a previous job and had kept in touch with socially applied for a job in the same team (junior to me) I was taken off the interview panel and swapped for another colleague. TBH I was glad as it meant I didn't have to bear the responsibility of not giving her the job (she didn't get it in the end) and the friendship didn't suffer.

Jux · 16/02/2018 22:03

Conflict of interest. You shouldn't be sitting in on that interview.

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