AIBU...lack of birthday messages

[LoopyLou1981]

I genuinely don’t know so preparing to get shot down in flames!
It’s my birthday today. My half brother has an ongoing illness (not life threatening but painful). He got taken into hospital this morning due to the latest flare up. My stepmum went in with him. My dad went later in the morning. My brother has been in and out of scans, investigations etc. that wouldn’t have been able to go into with him. At no point throughout today have either of them found 2 minutes to phone and wish me a happy birthday.
So as not to drip feed, my lb (2.5) was taken into hospital before Xmas and my half brother made a spiteful comment about it ‘all being about him (my ds)’ and me panicking over nothing (he had a non-blanching rash that it took 24 hours and 6 Drs to diagnose).
Am I being a spoilt brat to expect a quick phonecall?x

It really wouldn't bother me but I'm not a birthday type person. I'd be happy with no cards, or mentions.

Yes, really sorry as your brother was clearly out of order in the past, but don’t hold that against your dad and step mum.
Focus on the people who are around you and have wished you Happy Birthday. Here’s something for you

No, YANBU - even a text would be something. I'm guessing your relationship with your brother isn't good, but how is it normally with your dad and stepmum?

As blacktea They might genuinely have been too busy and some hospitals either don't allow mobiles or are blackspots for non emergency comms.

I think YABU today - they're going to be thinking about hospitals not birthdays. Happy Birthday from a complete stranger instead

Happy birthday.

I personally think seen as they've been in contact to tell you about your half brother then it really wouldn't have hurt for them to say happy birthday but maybe with the worry they just forgot.
Remember the worry when your child was in hospital?
Your half brother made a horrible comment, don't be like him rise above it.

Sorry, I should’ve said. I love my half brother to bits (stupid comment about my ds aside) and I’ve always had an amazing relationship with my dad and stepmum. This just got to me a bit.
Silly really!x

Happy birthday OP!

I should also point out that he’s not a child. You can work out my age from my user name. He’s not a huge amount younger.
(Not that your child ever stops being your child ... I completely get that)x

Happy Birthday! It is a bit crap tbh as we are all little on the inside on our birthdays ,
Hope you can treat yourself to make it feel special

Do you think they may have forgotten the date?

They may have forgotten if they’re in hospital with your half brother. I would try not to take it too personally.

Happy birthday from another random stranger on the internet though !

Unlikely they’ve forgotten the date...they text me last night to ask what I’d like for a present!
Loving my birthday wishes from random internet strangers though! 😂 x

Happy birthday OP, you're not unreasonable at all.

Happy Birthday!

My sister doesn’t often remember my birthday (not even my 40th) and she only remembers the D.C. if she sees something on Facebook about it.

She loves us she’s just fairly rubbish at focusing on anything except herself and her immediate family. She’d be furious if I forgot her DCs’ birthdays.

It’s a bit hurtful, especially for my D.C. as we don’t have much family.

Nevertheless we love her very much and accept her as she is.

My birthday too today loopy.

Have a good one

I'm 1982 though so older, haha

Happy birthday op. There are still 3hours of today left. They might feel texting you is inadequate and will call you later when they get home from hospital.

Remember how worried you wer when your child was in hospital? They are the same. Your birthday is way down on then list of priorities. I'm the same age as you- it's no biggie, get over it!!!

Happy birthday to you too halfwitpicker! 🍰🍾

Really - they are busy and have their hands full and spoke to u last night

Happy birthday x