I have a friend who is clearly trying to cut me and several of our mutual friends out of her life but she keeps in contact with my sister and has actually gotten closer to her. It isn't because any of us have done anything terrible to her but one of us discovered that she's been trying to fade out of our group of friends is probably because her parents divorced and she does not want us to know about it. She has always tried to portray that she has a perfect life. The other speculation is that because she is the last one out of our group of friends to get married. My sister is not married and actually has a lot of health issues which brings me to my actual AIBU question.
My sister's health has been declining for a long time and she is normally in and out of the hospital for various reasons and sometimes that is because she has pneumonia. She's been in the hospital since Tuesday of last week. Thursday her condition worsened and they decided to put her on a ventilator. They have also sedated her so she has not been awake for a little over a week now.
My friend, let's call her Christine, in the past has said some strange things to me in the past. For example: I was planning a baby shower for one of our other friends who wanted me to invite Christine's sister whose phone or address I did not have. I texted Christine to get her address so I could send her an invitation. The response I got from her was "if someone asks you for my address do not give it to them, have them ask me directly." Meanwhile, I'm wondering what she's thinking and I said "Ok. But can you give me your sisters address so I can send her an invitation to the baby shower?" and she again responds with "If someone asks you for my address do not give it to them". So, rather than telling me she doesn't want to give me her sisters address she just repeated that weird thing. I ended up going on FB to message her sister and get her address from her. It was just bizarre behavior but it has happened multiple times and not just to me.
Anyway, I just received a text from her. It has been at least two months since I last saw her and that was because I think she felt obligated as another mutual friend was in town and wanted to see us both at the same time. Her text to me said "How's it going? Is everything ok with Bri? I haven't heard back from her this week and her phone went straight to voicemail." That was about 30 minutes ago.
AIBU to not want to reply or if I do to not give her any details on her condition? Wednesday was so bad that our family thought she was dying as that is what one doctor made us believe. I want to be a bigger person and not stoop down to her level with something I think she would reply with if I were to send her a text like that about one of her family members which would go something along the lines of "If I am in the hospital and someone asks you how I'm doing, have them call me directly." Obviously my sister cannot answer or talk on the phone as she is on a ventilator and is sedated.
If my sister pulls through I wouldn't want her to know I said something like that as she doesn't know why I don't keep contact with Christine anymore. So what is the appropriate response here?
I'm normally a very logical person but I am under so much stress worrying about what is going to happen to my DS that all logic has left my head.