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Original poster

To still laugh about the time I "embarrassed" DH?

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ChocolateThroatSweets · 16/02/2018 14:28

DH and I got married nearly 2 years ago.

When we gave notice there was a couple just coming out of the room, who'd just given notice themselves.

As they came out and we were called in I said "congratulations on your forthcoming wedding" to them and they said the same to us.

DH still talks about the time I wished a strange couple congratulations and embarrassed him. In front of who I don't know? Not like the officiate cared and the couple clearly didn't. He still tells me I drew attention to the fact they where a same sex couple and we should of just left them to their business. I never in the exchange of congratulations mentioned the fact that they were the same sex.

I laugh everytime he tells this story, I honestly can't understand what is so embarrassing about 2 couples congratulating each other on their soon to be marriage.

AIBU or have I missed something about this scenario that was in fact embarrassing to DH?

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SneakyGremlins · 16/02/2018 14:30

Sounds like he has some issues Confused

blackteasplease · 16/02/2018 14:31

You sound perfectly normal! He's reaction is odd.

MyKingdomForBrie · 16/02/2018 14:33

Did he think you were trying to be all ‘look how inclusive I am’ and making a big point?

I know you weren’t I just wonder if that’s why it was a problem for him.

AHedgehogCanNeverBeBuggered · 16/02/2018 14:33

He sounds very weird! It would be much stranger NOT to congratulate another couple getting married at the same time... Confused

Thistlebelle · 16/02/2018 14:34

Yep, the issue is all with him.

And every time he tells this story in public he’s embarrassing himself all over again. It might be worth mentioning this.

Trinity66 · 16/02/2018 14:35

Yeah seems like it's because they were gay, i wonder would he have batted an eyelid if they were a straight couple? That's more his issue than yours tbf

10thingsIhateAboutTheDailyMail · 16/02/2018 14:37

Haha, is your DH 14?

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 16/02/2018 14:38

I think it was a lovely thing to say OP.

Is DH very private? Can't really think why he'd react that way.

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ChocolateThroatSweets · 16/02/2018 14:42

Possibly thought I was making a point, I wasn't, I was just wishing a couple getting married congratulations.

He's not 14 10 he's a lot older than that!

Not really a private person, he'll happily talk about his own medical conditions openly with friends/family/work colleagues.

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VladmirsPoutine · 16/02/2018 14:45

I think he is odd for feeling embarrassed about it and you're odd for finding it hilarious every time he brings it up.

This really isn't an issue. It's not even a thing.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 16/02/2018 14:48

Why are you "still laughing" about it? You sound odder than he does, if you've spent two years periodically bringing this up. Get over it.

MadMags · 16/02/2018 14:49

I think you're both weird.

It's not funny, so why are you laughing?? Confused

MermaidTailUnicornHorn · 16/02/2018 14:52

You both sound exceptionally weird.

FizzyGreenWater · 16/02/2018 14:57

Tell him you've found them on FB and want to start sending them an anniversary card

Uffishthought · 16/02/2018 14:59

You need to tell him to stop telling the story as it must reflect oddly on him - out of interest how do people react to it?

DH and I both have unusual names and when we were getting married we found a wedding website for another couple with the same names. So we emailed them to wish them well! They were very tickled to get the email and wished us well in return. What would your DH think about that?

RidingWindhorses · 16/02/2018 15:01

Strange man.

lottiegarbanzo · 16/02/2018 15:12

Huh? Sounds like he has big issues about same-sex couples.

DiegoMadonna · 16/02/2018 15:14

Sounds very weird.

TheNecroscope · 16/02/2018 15:16

How did you know they were there to give notice? If it's at a registrar (I assume), they could have been there to register a death.
Anyway, assuming you did know they were giving notice, it's a perfectly normal thing to say congratulations and it sounds like your DH has issues with them being a same sex couple.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 16/02/2018 15:19

He'd have been even more embarrassed by me then. When we went to give notice we were leaving the registry office and I opened the door and walked out not realising there was a wedding party taking photos! Obviously I didn't know before I opened the door but I still didn't notice when I was standing with them. When the penny dropped I smiled and carried on walking through as there wasn't a lot else I could do!

MadMags · 16/02/2018 15:20

So you walked out of the building while they were taking photos? How would that embarrass him?! This thread is mad!

Tallia · 16/02/2018 15:20

What TheNecroscope said

Bluntness100 · 16/02/2018 15:22

How's that even embarrassing never mind going on about it two years later and now you posting about it on here. That's just plain odd all round.

BothersomeCrow · 16/02/2018 15:28

Don't most register offices have separate areas for births, marriages and deaths? The ones we used for notice of marriage, and then the marriage followed by births, did, but they are huge places.

TheNecroscope · 16/02/2018 15:34

Not our local one Bothersome, one tiny office where you go for everything.

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