To not want to move

[Yawnyprawn]

Please help me get a grip! Husband has just landed a great job in a city across the country from where we currently are. It's nearer to both of our families, to the sea, countryside etc, it's a bigger city with more to do and will be a great place for our little girl to grow up. Plus we'll have more money so I have the flexibility to be a SAHM for longer, which I want. I should be thrilled, I know.

But I feel sick even thinking about it! I love our current home, and while our location can be a little unexciting we've enjoyed living here and made tons of good friends. Plus I had a difficult pregnancy and we've just got through my depression and the newborn chaos with DD, everything felt like it was settling down nicely again. I don't want to uproot. Help!

I felt a bit like that 10 years ago. We were living in a meh town but I had friends, a comfortable house and felt fairly settled.

DH however was on the verge of a breakdown at work which was what really convinced me to move.

We actually moved 3000 miles to a town in the US that I'd never even visited. It was terrifying in a lot of ways.

It's been wonderful and was totally worth the move. I've never regretted it.

Thank you! It's so reassuring to hear that :) Glad it worked out well for you!

I felt like that too when my DP got a job in London, I was terrified but now I love the place and I wouldn't want to move.

It may take you a while but you will create yourself a new home that you will love. Good luck

Thanks

Jump and the net will appear OP. Sounds exciting to move and discover somewhere new and it's easy enough to keep in touch with old friends.

Perfectly normal, i'd hate to leave my friends as don't have many BUT needs must

I think it's understandable to feel worried about an upheaval when you've recently had a baby. You're vulnerable to some degree. It sounds like there's so many positives in your move though, I'm sure it'll all pan out fine. Good luck OP, sounds fab

Ach, just do it. I've moved all over thr place, from Scotland to down south to mainland Europe and back to England. As long as you're with family, you're home. Everything else is just geography.

Thanks all I feel encouraged!