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Dinner party on a Monday

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jesuislepp · 16/02/2018 13:13

DH and I have 2 young kids so don't really go out much. We prefer entertaining at home. I am currently trying to organise a small dinner party with a couple of my friends. Nothing fancy, but a 3 course meal and a few bottles of wine.

Texted friends to suggest they come for dinner and would they have any Fridays free over the next month or so. Friend A said he could do in 6 weeks time. Friend B said she could do in 7 weeks time. So no suitable Fridays. I then suggest a Thursday, it's nearly the weekend and maybe week nights are easier. Friends say they will check their diaries.

Few days later and Friend B writes to suggest Monday night in 6 weeks. Friend A says 'yes, brilliant, booked in'. The date is not good for me as I am away but even if it was, AIBU to not want to host a dinner party on a Monday?! My DH has super hectic work weeks and can only really get away early / is relaxed enough on Thursdays, which is why I'd suggested it.

I replied to say the date didn't work and in any case, due to DH, I would really prefer Thursday or Friday so maybe we should wait until April / May when everyone is more available. Neither friend has replied.

I get that everyone is busy but I AIBU not to want to host early in the week? I feel my reply was a bit churlish but I feel a bit pissed off with them. Neither of them thanked me for the invitation either!

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Jenala · 16/02/2018 13:15

Seems weird given they had a Friday available in 6 or 7 weeks. I'd just say "that doesn't work for us due to the time DH gets home. Let's go for the Friday after all".

Caroelle · 16/02/2018 13:16

You are nbu. Your dinner party, you set the date. You could suggest as an alternative a bring and share midweek if you feel up to that.

MissionItsPossible · 16/02/2018 13:31

Hmm, I can see both sides. I would prefer to do something like this earlier in the week but of course would go with whatever day the host is doing. If they don't thank you for hosting then that is very rude but I wouldn't be too put out at not being thanked for the invitation. YANBU, your dinner party, your rules.

CuriousHedgehog · 16/02/2018 13:35

My friends and I have horrific trouble arranging dinner parties. We have (rather sadly) resorted to doodle polls. Host makes a doodle poll with all the dates they can do (obviously they get the first say!) and then everyone else votes. A bit overly formal, but it does work.

Sunshineface123 · 16/02/2018 14:27

A Saturday or Sunday (maybe lunch) would be better surely? Absolutely not a week night and definitely not a Monday, how weird they suggested that!

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jesuislepp · 16/02/2018 15:03

Thanks for your input...good to hear that I am not weird for not wanting to host on a Monday!
Jenala both friends have one Friday free in the next two months, but they weren't the same Fridays
Curious, yes may have to do that! Maybe there will be in Friday in October that will suit them... Confused

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MrTrebus · 16/02/2018 15:31

You make time for people and events you care strongly enough about. I'd sack them off and have a candlelit dinner just me and DH. But that's just me and I don't do these types of "friends"

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jesuislepp · 16/02/2018 15:39

Yes I think that’s how I’m feeling mr. It almost seemed like a hinderence for them to make themselves available! Dine in for 2 calls Grin

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