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was he out of order?

14 replies

QueenB14 · 16/02/2018 13:03

The other night I received a message on facebook from an ex boyfriend that I split from about 4 and a half years ago. This was completely out of the blue as we never talk.

Anyway he says something along the lines of he hopes in happy with my life choices? I think it was a drunk text although it wasn't sent too late....

Was this out of line? I find myself getting angry as a) yeah perfectly happy thanks! And b) its absolutely none of his business either way, he could only know details of my life since I left by stalking social media etc

It just comes across so smug. Yeah I have made choices since I left that maybe not everyone would make etc but I don't have to justify them to him. I could be stumbling through life making mistake after mistake but that's my business surely? Aibu to want to tell him to fuck off? Had 5 years of being treated like a child by him I thought that was over when I left!

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ThisLittleKitty · 16/02/2018 13:05

Wow he sounds bitter. Wouldn't even give him the satisfaction of a response.

WorraLiberty · 16/02/2018 13:06

Block him and tighten your security settings, so only friends can message you.

He sounds weird to be doing this after 4 and a half years.

ButDoYouAvocado · 16/02/2018 13:06

You could reply 'yeah I am. I'm particularly proud of the 11 stone i lost 4 years ago. 11 stone of dickhead'

EnglishRose13 · 16/02/2018 13:07

Block him. Move on.

It's not a big deal unless you let it become one.

Travis1 · 16/02/2018 13:08

You are giving this way too much thought. Just block him and ignore

SundaySalon · 16/02/2018 13:08

Don’t message him back. He’s probably regretting his own life choices and is looking for an argument. Would definitely block him though.

iklboo · 16/02/2018 13:08

'Sorry, who is this?'

Sparklesocks · 16/02/2018 13:09

Block block block, don’t engage - shows you’re not worthy of his time or attention

alotalotalot · 16/02/2018 13:09

I think he's coming on to you because he's not happy with his?

Sparklesocks · 16/02/2018 13:10

Sorry HE isn’t worthy of your time and attention!

Caroelle · 16/02/2018 13:10

If you respond you are playing his game, just ignore him. Someone has upset him I suspect and he is looking for a target. Block him and he will find someone else to annoy.

QueenB14 · 16/02/2018 13:12

Just to clarify I haven't responded, and won't, as any response that comes into my head just would lead to an argument and I don't want to revert to the dynamics of the relationship i.e. him "telling me off" and me trying to justify my decisions

I do agree it is seriously weird. Will block

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VladmirsPoutine · 16/02/2018 13:13

You are thinking about this from entirely in the wrong perspective. I'd bet my house that it's him that is feeling bitter and like he made the wrong choices. By all accounts you have moved on - whether that meant you became president of the world or a heroin-addled prostitute is neither here nor there. If anything pat yourself on the back - you clearly made the right choice. Don't respond and think no more of it!

Trinity66 · 16/02/2018 13:14

iklboo
'Sorry, who is this?'

Grin
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