People spelling your name wrong on emails or fb posts next to the correct spelling

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How do people manage to do this when your name is part of the email address or they write a comment under your fb comments which has your name next to it? It's so infuriating and lazy
A family member who I have known for over 20 years regularly spells my name wrong In birthday cards etc but I find most annoying when she is replying to an email so her answer is under my name and she still doesn't get it right. Or on a fb post where my name is all over the comments section.
My name can be spelt with an e, or without. For example (not my real name)
Helen or helene. My name has the e, and she always spells it without. I wouldn't mind but her name is similar, so ends in an e, like leanne, so I could spell it leann.

If it's a one-off, then I'd assume it was just an unnoticed typo.

But does frequently (in a work context) and I'd wonder about the person's standard of written communication (because attention to detail usually matters, and gettting someone's name wrong is arguably more than just a detail). Within circle of family and friends, I'd be quite pissed off, but would tread with care about pointing out the need for correction (because it's likely to go down like a bucket of cold sick - no-one likes what seems like a telling off)

(And yes, I have a name that is easily confused with a similar one. As does one of the DC. That there is a time to correct and a time to let it wash over, is something I've tried to pass on)

It’s annoying but I’m just used to it now. Even my club card has the wrong spelling, in fact the woman shortened my name and misspelled my last name. Even though I was spelling it out for her. She knocked like four letters off my first name.

I have a slightly odd Irish first name which I usually have to spell out to people when they send me an email (which is my fullname at outlook dot com). My first name also has a much more common, much simpler spelling.

They obviously take the information in, as the email duly arrives. But often begins:

Dear “More Simple Spelling of the Name.”

When they’ve just used the proper spelling in the email address. Why? Why?

Not even via email or text - I was on the phone to a letting agent before and she asked my name. I said "Suzanne". She said "OK Susan that's great".
ARGH!! I JUST SAID IT! 3 SECONDS AGO!!

@sixteenapples sorry, but I really don't understand your point where you have quoted me?

The emoticon/emoji i used is a shorthand, not misspelling something or getting someone's name wrong...

My point with my colleague's name was that although her name (Imke) was in her email address, at the end of the email and in her signature, the gentleman she had emailed still thought it was a spam email and that it was supposed to say "Mike"

Whenever people refer to me in person with wrong name, say Helen instead of Helena I just respond with ‘A’. So.. ‘would you pass me that Helen?’ Me ‘a’ Cue confused look until the penny drops. I don’t do it arsily. Just conversationally and then pass whatever they ask for or do whatever they have asked.

This is one of my pet peeves. There's 3 of us at work with similar names, I'll use an example:
Nicki (Accounts) and Nicky (me - Sales, product A) are in one location. Nicky (Sales, product B) is in a different location. The best/worst email I ever got was a confidential mail about a pay query addresses to "Nickkiy"... I guess they were just trying to cover all the bases with that spelling....!!
I think it's just laziness, and when people (frequently) address me in a mail as "Vicki" I respond to them as a completely different name (usually Dave or Fred). I genuinely don't see the difference, my name is VickY, not VickI, same as your name is Steve, not Dave, or Brenda, not Abigail...!!

I find this infuriating too. The most recent occurrence was on a wedding invitation from one of my siblings - e.g. it was written to Jane instead of Jayne. I corrected the spelling on the RSVP card and asked for the correct spelling to be used. WW3 has since broken out; apparently I'm being rude and difficult by asking for the correct spelling of my name to be used, never mind the fact that their child has a very unusual spelling of their name (think Graycey instead of Gracie) and they pick people up on it all the time.

It's out of order. It does my head in.

Most 6 year olds can copy a word correctly

MsSquiz - my response was to your comment that typos, getting peoples' names wrong etc was "Sheer laziness and ignorance".

I had explained why this happens - and I studied it so it's not just an "opinion". It is not laziness and ignorance in a negative sense but a change in the way we use the written word. We don't check, and we don't see it as important as long as we know what we mean - roughly. To pick up on it is deemed pedantic, (see current thread on etc v ect in aibu)

In the same post you used "who's" for "whose" and "did used" instead of "did use to".

It didn't matter - we understood - you didn't notice or check or care - we don't know. Maybe you were in a rush or the phone autocorrected, (as it might Imke for Mike). That's the point.

Some people make a huge fuss about something they want spelled right and yet don't see it as part of the genreal change in the way we use the written word. When they make errors themselves often those errors are considered by them inconsequential and they dismiss them.

It wasn't meant to be personal but reading it back I can see that it might have been. Sorry. (It's just a pet hobby horse of mine)

And again I can see typos in my last post. Had I been handwriting 20 years ago, in ink, on relatively expensive paper, to someone whose good opinion I needed, that would not have happened.

I was sent on a compulsory "Professional Communication" course, run by an external consultant. At the end, I was given a certificate of attendance. My name was spelled incorrectly.

Ha ha Whatever - I hope that you complained about that! That should have been done properly

‘well she obviously doesn’t know how to spell her own name so I’ll correct it for her’.

Teachers did this with my name.