My DP's ex is very abusive and totally disrespectful, uses the children against him and can really stoop low.
She was like this in their marriage and has her own issues, basically insecure, unhappy and total control freak.
Contact with the children is pretty much set in a pattern, however she moved away and has now refused to drop the children off every other weekend, my DP does a pick up and drop off every week, she changes weekends when she feels like it, has booked her summer holiday (so she says over his week in July), and generally does what she likes with no regard to him or more importantly the children. She always wants more money, ( has a lovely new extension and 50 inch TV and the children barely have a pair of shoes that fit and are weather appropriate, threatens him with court etc etc. Just lots and lots of threats but little action, Now I don't care whether we do all the pick ups,etc I just want this nonsense to stop but I don't how to get thru to her, or preferably just do something to put in place repercussions that will work and get her to stick to the agreed contact. Stop paying maintenance??? Court contact order??? Get in touch with her new partner???? Or just face the fact that we have to put up with it until the kids grow up. Its just so disruptive, we can't plan anything and the poor kids are stuck in the middle thinking their Dad doesn't care about them