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AIBU?

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Is she taking the piss?

71 replies

DankAShan · 15/02/2018 21:18

I've befriended a mum at school who is going through a very rough time. She seems really nice and I've had her DS round for tea on a couple of occasions and picked him up from school to help her out - not a problem.

When her DS was at my house a couple of weeks ago he had an accident so I changed him into my DS's clothes and gave the mum his dirty clothes. A week later I receive my DS clothes bag in a carrier bag - unwashed and skid marks in the pants.

She then asked if she could borrow a school uniform from me as she had left her DS uniform at home and was staying with her mum that night. 5 days passed and I hadn't received it back, when I asked her about it she said she didn't understand what the rush was as "most people have more than one set of uniform"

The last incident was, I let her borrow something of mine and specifically asked for it back on a certain day as I needed it. When she gave it back (albeit on time) it was missing pieces. When I asked her about it she said she doesn't know what I'm talking about as all the pieces were there when she gave it me back.

She's a nice woman and we get on well. She's going through a tough time but my DH thinks she's taking the piss abit and now I'm starting to agree with him. AIBU?

OP posts:
GreatDuckCookery6211 · 21/10/2018 15:01

ZOMBIE

hellojim · 21/10/2018 15:08

Stop lending her stuff. If she is so nice she will understand when you decline any further requests. She needs to learn some manners - she could at least have apologised for the state of the clothes she was returning to you if she wasn't able to wash them.

Gemini69 · 21/10/2018 15:20

She's NOT nice... in any way shape or form.... Hmm

DeadLioness · 21/10/2018 15:23

ZOMBIE

Juells · 21/10/2018 15:28

Why are people posting ZOMBIE? Confused

I used to be a real pushover for people having hard times, but eventually it'd always turn out that the reason for the hard times was because they take the piss so much that they've worn out friendships, and expect everyone to do everything for them, or they've been sacked for pinching stuff or not turning up... and it's never their fault.

Juells · 21/10/2018 15:29

the state of the clothes she was returning to you if she wasn't able to wash them.

Even if she didn't have a washing machine she could have washed them by hand. I feel sorry for her child, who hasn't even been taught how to wash his own bum :(

PattiStanger · 21/10/2018 15:31

@Bracknellite

How and why did you find an 8 month old thread and decide to resurrect it? Confused

CuriousaboutSamphire · 21/10/2018 15:32

Why are people posting ZOMBIE?

Because the OP left the thread in February it is an old thread that ha been brought back to life - a ZOMBIE THREAD

Fridaydreamer · 21/10/2018 15:36

@Juells it’s a ZOMBIE thread. Look at the dates. Old and odd to resurrect it.

Willow2017 · 21/10/2018 15:38

She really isnt nice at all.
Who.bortows stuff then tells the person that she hasnt retirned it becsuse you must have loads of uniform yourself! if thats the case so should she

She is using you and relying on your good nature not to tell her to return your stuff in the way she got it and when asked.

When.you stop lending or doing favours you will soon see her true colours.

Step back before she is even more of a cf and calling you for everything for not dancing to her tune.

Willow2017 · 21/10/2018 15:40

Oh ffs!
😠😠😠
Just why?

CuriousaboutSamphire · 21/10/2018 15:41

Sorry Juells, I don't realise it was you and was explaining as if to a total newbie rather than a regular who just hadn't noticed the date Blush

Juells · 21/10/2018 15:45

Oh FFS 😂

LightningOne · 21/10/2018 15:52

She seems totally unreasonable and is taking advantage of your kindness. Actions speak louder than words.

Bracknellite · 21/10/2018 15:59

@PattiStanger
Didn’t check the date and replied

Relatively new and thought old posts disappeared.

Sorry if I ruined your Sunday.

PattiStanger · 21/10/2018 16:05

But how did you find it bracknelite?

There must have been. 79000 threads since this one, you might have guessed now ffrom the comments that whilst MNHQ feel it necessary to keep a record of just about everything ever posted it's not the done thing to bring threads back to life. If that's not in the instructions for newbies it should be Smile

Bracknellite · 21/10/2018 16:10

By doing a search for ‘CF’

It’s not on the instructions for newbies.

But I’ll consider myself told

Vixxxy · 21/10/2018 16:17

YANBU, she is massively taking the piss. I get that things might be bad at home and she may be struggling, but it still takes a few seconds to put something in the washer before you give it back. I cannot imagine giving something to someone thats covered in skid marks..thats just vile.

Vixxxy · 21/10/2018 16:18

Ugh. I didn't read all the way through before posting, sorry Blush

Rebecca36 · 21/10/2018 16:39

How horrible not to have washed the clothes you lent to her child, there's no excuse for that.

If you like her, carry on being friends but don't lend anything again and don't be quite so helpful.

EK36 · 21/10/2018 17:43

My mum always said, only lend stuff you don't mind never coming back. It's so true. I think your friend is incredibly rude and isn't being very respectful towards you. Also these clothes dont belibg to you, theyvare your child's. You should never lend out your childs things. Once someone asked to borrow my childs new dvd. Straightaway she wanted to know who..followed by a no. I told that person that she didnt want to lend it. Simple. Next time she asks be prepared to say, no everything's in the wash, sorry.

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