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With DDs teacher

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LieselVentouse · 02/05/2007 09:51

Last night DD (P1) and some of her school friends had a show (not school related) and her teacher turned up to see them (nice touch) but when we were leaving DD got upset cause DH had to dash off as he had a prior engagement. Her teacher saw this and said "come and take Mrs " hand and you can walk me to my car" I walked behind with my family and I heard another mother say to DD "whats wrong" and DDS teacher said "its okay this child can turn the tears on and off whenever she wants". I am unaware of this and a bit hacked off the more I think about it.

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edam · 02/05/2007 09:54

Ouch. Such a shame she spoiled a nice gesture with that comment. It obviously bothers you (would me too) so I'd have a quiet, polite word with her, saying you overheard and were distressed by it.

LIZS · 02/05/2007 09:56

Think you are getting a bit worked up over an off the cuff remark. Perhaps she could have been more discreet but she was "off duty" so to speak. By all emans ask oif that is a problem at shcool but many kdis will eb simialr and she obviously is adept at dealing with it so hasn't felt the need to worry you.

dmo · 02/05/2007 09:58

dont let it bother you
my sons cub leader said my son couldnt go on camp as he would have to staple his ears to a tree to keep him still, i was upset at first but now i see the funny side and he is due to go on his first camp this weekend

i would just be cross that the teather had said this comment to another parent as the parent may now blag it to other parents

Hassled · 02/05/2007 10:01

It was completely out of order for the teacher to say something like that to another parent, on or off duty - even if she didn't realise you were in earshot, she must have known that your DD was. That said, the ability to turn tears on and off is very very common (doesn;t mean that the child isn't genuinely upset at the time) and nothing for you to worry about in itself.

elasticbandstand · 02/05/2007 10:02

it seems a bit mean doesnt it.. grrr.. i wouldnt have a word personally though. perhaps she forgot herself ... that she wasnt in school...

elasticbandstand · 02/05/2007 10:02

was she right though?
would you say she is good at turning on tears..

ekra · 02/05/2007 10:04

I would be annoyed to hear someone say that about my dd too.

contentiouscat · 02/05/2007 10:06

She was being kind in helping but the comment was insensitive and indiscrete (sp?)

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LieselVentouse · 02/05/2007 10:23

I am not aware of her being a cry baby. I knew she would be upset cause her daddy had to leave sharp so I warned her in advance that he would be heading off. I also wish she would tell me comments like that rather than me overhearing.

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elasticbandstand · 02/05/2007 10:43

, i spose there is no harm in querying it with teacher, perhaps she realises she said the wrong thing!

StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 02/05/2007 12:28

I think all young kids can turn tears on and off when it suits them. The teacher will know this as will the other parent. Im sure she didn't mean anything by it and I think its nice that she distracted your dd by taking her hand.

But it was a bit thoughtless of her to make the remark.

FiveFingeredFiend · 02/05/2007 12:29

I think she needs Fanjo kicking.

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