To not want him at christening?

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Hello. Feel bad but here goes. Due to get ds christened soon and drawing up a guest list. My aunty partner/companion is on the list naturally but my god he's a pain in the arse. He talks over everyone, is over familiar and is a bullshitter. He's also a hanger on and never puts his hand in his pocket for anything so causes tension. Dh says it's evil not to invite him and he'd come anyway and have to sit there with no food ordered. Aibu to really not want to invite this man?

Will it upset your aunt, will it cause family problems? Maybe the Christian thing to do is include him.

She says he's a pain in the arse! I suppose well have to suck it up though. Still don't think I'm unreasonable

Every family has one of those. You would be rather unreasonable to exclude him though.

Crisp I don't think of him as family he's proved he's a hanger on and isn't a nice person

If you decide to invite him, get someone to babysit him. Shit for them but you can buy them a drink later to thank them! Cousin, Brother? Someone who isn't a godparent or whatever obviously. Tell them to keep him bullshitting talking and out of the way.

No one's going to take that job on mum

Your aunt IS family though and to not invite her partner to a family event is rude. Have they been together long? Can you ask her to keep him in check?

Is he religious? He might not want to go

Will your aunt actually want him there? Does he live with her? Does he attend all family events?
If he's just someone she goes about with sometimes, I see no reason to invite him.
If he lives with her then he's her partner and should be invited.

Yes it would be extremely rude. You can't really invite Aunty and leave him out, that would put her in a horrible position.

He is family and to exclude him is rude. Besides which aren't most baptisms performed during a normal church service - am not sure you're allowed to bar people from entering a church just because they're annoying! (Other wise most PCCs would be very quiet!)

He might surprise you.

I do agree that every family has someone like this, you are probably better off sucking it up and inviting him, if he is actually your auntie's partner. If you ask her and she says she doesn't want him there then there's no need to invite him.

They don't live together. They've been on and off for years but he'll come out the woodwork for free food and drink