Co worker problems

[maribananas]

aIBU to stand up for myself at work

I've been working in my place of work a few months now and have been promoted to deputy manager.

There's a boned deputy manger there also who's been there a while, her nose is massively out of joint that someone has been given the same role as her. It's really difficult because she's picking on me and trying to get me to trip up all the time.

She says nasty comments to me on front of the staff and is a total vow to them also.

She's basically a bully and I need to stand up for myself more and not take it off her! She made me cry today, not in front of anyone but she made me feel so inferior that I went to toilet and had a little cry!

Any ideas how I can become more assertive. We work with kids so I have to choose my words and timings really well.

Enough is enough though, I love my job and done want to be made to feel pushed out.

GGo to the manager and complain. Dont put up with it, just because shes got the arse ache.

Good for you for holding it in until you were alone. She probably would have been greatly satisfied if she saw you cry and would revel in doing it. The only upside is that because she's a total vow () to others and says nasty things in front of the staff, if she ever gets hauled up over it you will have plenty of witnesses and people on your side. If she was being sneaky and lovely to everyone else and vile to you you might have been accused of being oversensitive.

Practice thinking of her as hilariously ridiculous (she is, she's a grown woman acting like a stroppy teenager) instead of horrible.

These people thrive off being taken seriously, so sometimes "excuse me?" and a big, incredulous grin can take the wind out of their sails.

If she's a cow to everyone else too then they'll all be silently cheering you on.

Well done for holding it together in front of your co-worker.

Can you push the situation by saying "co-worker we seem to be rubbing each other up the wrong way. Shall we arrange a meeting with management to discuss any issues away from the children?" Maybe faced with having to tell management that actually you haven't done anything might stop her in her tracks. It will also make you look more professional by not saying anything in front of other members of staff or the children.

for you - it's horrible working in an atmosphere.

Note down incidents, then go and complain to your manager!

Thank you all. I've had. Pretty shitty week and it's all got on top of me! The manger is lovely but I don't know if she feels intimidated by his girl also! Manager and myself are new whereas this girl has been here a while!!

It's a horrible atmosphere and I'm used to working with men who are much easier to tolerate!

Thank you all for being so nice when I needed someone x