Hi,
Apologies if this becomes a big essay!
I had a friend whom I was very close with, for the last five years. We became drinking buddies initially, before the drinking turned to harder things and she introduced me to cocaine. I'm not condoning my behaviour - I could have said no but I didn't and consequently developed somewhat of an addiction. I say "somewhat of an addiction" because I only ever did drugs when I hung around with her, which used to be on a weekend only and normally just after pay day. I know however that she would do drugs every week throughout the week when her benefits were paid in.
Fastforward to last year, I met a wonderful man and stopped the drugs. My friend wasn't willing to stop - that's up to her. But AIBU to end this friendship, since if I go to see her, she won't try and coax me into doing drugs with her but I really don't want the temptation put in front of me
Plus she is constantly asking me for money because she owes money to the drug-dealer. She is a single parent of two young children - a boy and a girl and she does make sure they are fed/clothed/clean as a priority but anything other than that goes on drugs and alcohol. Her father bought her little boy a tablet for his birthday (he's 9 years old now) back in July, yet I know for a fact it has been pawned for drug money. Everything she owns or has been given is constantly on buy-backs at the pawn shop. I just feel really bad for her children that they will not have anything nice because their mother has addiction issues.
Her own family are aware she has struggled with drink/drugs in the past but think she is over it now. I do know that social services keep her under constant surveillance and she has admitted to them that she has a cocaine dependency.
AIBU to want to end this friendship completely and never see/speak to her again? It might be cowardly but I can't afford to enable her behaviour nor do I want to go back to that place where all I cared about was buying more drugs. I recently found out I was pregnant and there is no way I would want my child to grow up with a mother who is constantly selling their stuff to fund her drug habit.
Not sure how I come across in this post - perhaps judgemental but being her friend was making me unhappy and considerably poorer than I needed to be.... AIBU?