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To want to club DH with a frying pan?

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MadRainbow · 15/02/2018 07:13

Rather long story dont want to dripfeed

Our 4yo DD is ill with some kind of virus, clingy and waking up in the night crying for us. So I collected her, put her in our room next to DH as the baby on my bladder insisted I must go then. Asked DH to sort her out more medicine as she's due some and feeling hot. He attempts to cuddle her but she pushes him off - so he then tells her off Hmm so bad start. I grab her a drink, come back and again ask him to sort her medicine cos now she's crying.

I manage to calm her down enough so we can get this in her ( so I think) but she chokes and is sick, I catch it in my hands and DH runs off, I assume to grab the bowl from her room... No he grabs a loo roll Confused (we have one in our room already) to mop it off her face, not really helpful so I ask "bucket?!" Admittedly a bit incredulous but he snaps at me it's in another room; bearing in mind he went in another room to grab superfluous loo roll. So I ask for the bowl in her room and he snaps at me again Angry and storms off. DD in bits again now. Trying to contain my fury I clean her up, she's now refusing medicine so I calm her down and manage to put her back to bed.

I realise I'm nearly 8 months pregnant so hormonal, tired, headachy and feeling ill myself but would I be totally U to want to chuck DH off the balcony?

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Northernparent68 · 15/02/2018 07:18

You were both tired and stressed, probably best not to dwell on it

CherryMaDeary · 15/02/2018 07:23

YANBU. Is he always this useless?

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MadRainbow · 15/02/2018 07:29

Hasn't been for a while, having had a chance to calm down I expect he was just tired and easily confused. Common sense is not his strong point at the best of times...

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MyKingdomForBrie · 15/02/2018 07:38

YANBU, he had no reason to be rude to you and every reason to fetch a bucket!

I’d be most bothered about him telling her off when she didn’t want a hug. It’s so important she knows that she can refuse physical affection etc from whoever she chooses. I wouldn’t have wanted a hug then either!

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MadRainbow · 15/02/2018 08:06

On the plus side just woken him up so I can get some more sleep and he has at least apologised. So I feel better about crashing out

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LifeBeginsAtGin · 15/02/2018 08:18

I used to think it was easier to do these things on my own, rather than supervising an ill child and my DH.

dancinfeet · 15/02/2018 08:35

Am a bit divided on this as at least he grabbed the loo roll and attempted to clean her up, even if a bucket/bowl would have been a more logical thing to fetch. But he was rude to you and should have realised that a loo roll isn't much good on it's own.
I once had a situation where DD woke in the night having been sick all over her bed and herself, we both got up to see to her - I took her into bathroom, dealt with sick, popped her in the shower quickly to hose her down and dried her off and put her in clean PJs. Did he deal with the sicky bedding and bedroom floor in the meantime?? No - he went back to bed because he was too tired to deal with that at 3am. I had to leave 4 year old DD sat on the landing wrapped in a blanket with a bucket, whilst I then dealt with the bed and bedroom before she could go back to bed. He was and still is (14 years later) a selfish twunt, at least now I only have to deal with him in small doses as he is Ex H now.

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