To think that some behaviours should be grown out of?

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I'm fully prepared to get flamed but I genuinely wonder if I'm the only person who thinks this?

I was talking today to a friend who was at a wedding which was ruined by a couple of (adult) men getting drunk like adolescents.

It made me think of behaviours (from men and women) that perhaps should be grown out of:
Drinking irresponsibly?
Collecting soft toys?
Obsessive gaming?
Football stickers or footballers' autographs?
Fawning over pop stars?

So are there others you would add to the list or AIBU?

Come to think of it, at the age of 48 I should probably have grown out of the desire to slide down the stairs on a mattress OMG! I so want to do that and I’m close to 48 —on the wrong side—

I think it's your job as an adult to pay your bills, fulfil your responsibilities and not hurt anyone. Beyond that, do what you want.

If you want to scream at Take That concerts, or collect Disney figurines, or play Dungeons and Dragons for an evening a week then go for it. Life has enough real stresses in it without creating made up ones about whether or not certain hobbies or harmless pleasures are "allowed" past a certain age.

I like toys. I once told DH that DD wanted a huge nemo because I did. It was great!

When adult women put on a little girl's voice.

Or sound and act like they're still 7.

I'm 48 too and would like to slide down the stairs on a mattress.

I would love one of these

Ruining a wedding is definitely a lot different from the other things on this list. Why do you think these behaviours should be "grown out of" just because you think they're strange? Does it really bother you so much what people do in their own time? That is strange.

When adult women put on a little girl's voice oh yes! That seriously fucks me off. Just.stop.it!

YouTheCat

Oh yes! I’d be elbowing the kids out of the way. “No children, it’s much too dangerous for you. Adults only” 😁

Yes, definitely.

I still haven't grown out of some of mine. The only one I'd admit to is still using swings and roundabouts in children's playgrounds and swinging around railings on pathways (when no-ones looking)

Can we get up a 'sliding mattresses down stairs' club? I'd be in. I also have very good stairs for this sort of thing...

Comparing irresponsible drinking to a list of other things that are literally harmless

But you’re not playing, LanguidLobster, you’re just exercising. 😉

Let people enjoy things OP.

The problem with the excessive drinking is the awful knock on effect. It ruins people's relationships, impacts on their children, can lead to domestic violence, to say nothing of clogging up our much needed services in the NHS!

If you want to go out and spend all your money on being a drunk, fill your boots. But don't hit your wives/husbands and girlfriends/boyfriends. Don't impact your children's lives, and any alcohol-related illnesses make sure you cure yourself so that other people who are genuinely sick through no fault of their own don't have to wait or suffer.

irresponsible drinking... I'll let you have that one the rest though. Feck off.

I collect toys. In fact the toys I collect are going up in value every single year so my immature habit of collecting toys could one day help fund my retirement. ditto those who collect autographs. Plus lets not forget the sheer joy I get out of finding a gem of an item for 50p at a boot sale.

Obsessive gaming. There is a lot of money to be made in gaming either through competitive gaming, creating gaming channels and platforms or developing a game either as an app made in a few days to a multi platform game that took years and 100s of folk to develop. Don't be so dismissive of obsessive gaming. Do you feel the same about obsessive football fans?

fawning over pop stars/celebs. Nope. Its a safe way to experience lust and I think its healthy for everyone inc teens to lust after celebs. There are a couple of Canadian actors who are just perfect. I'm an adult, I'm not daft but a bit of daydreaming is healthy.

The only one I agree with OP on is drinking and ruining people’s parties. Otherwise, no.

OMG YouTheCat, I really want those stairs

Isn't there some famous verse about putting away childish things and becoming a man?

I was a bit surprised by women of my own age (50s) getting tearful and hugging Mickey Mouse at Disney (don't they know its probably a spotty teenager under there). And I don't get why grown adults would still want a bed full of teddies. But each to their own.

Worra, it would take all the effort out of having to lug a mattress back up the stairs for a second go.

I think this is about self Control, it's something that should be learned at some point. My children will eat a pack of biscuits because they are nice but I am teaching them all things in moderation. It's good to have fun and be silly but don't take it too far

Looking down on people for not having tastes which you deem age-appropriate. Should have left that behind in your teenage years (yes, I appreciate the irony of my post)

It so would, YouTheCat and I could stick a furniture polish cloth to my arse, so it takes the effort out of cleaning.

You're a genius

Adults can do what they like. They don't have to become stuffy.However, I do find it odd when adults act like overgrown children.

Like Disney films, fine.
Squeeling about princesses like 5 year olds, odd.

Enjoyong gaming, fine.
Spending hours of your day glued to a screen and telling your family and partner to wait til you finish a level, not fine.

Enjoying a few drinks, being merry and silly, fine.
Being inebriated so much you're a public nuisance, stupid.

Adult women putting on silly girly voices and acting ditzy is infuriating.

YouTheCat

I wonder if they do those stair slides in extra wide?

"I really do want to discuss these (and other) behaviours, and whether there are things we should grow out of or not? "

OP there are an awful lot of people in therapy because they've internalised the 'shoulds' and 'oughts' that their bat shit Parents dictated to them and they continue to let others decide what they 'should' and shouldn't be doing.
Why can't you get that we all have different interests and like doing different things?

I'll think I'll go with a bit of Madonna wisdom on this "poor is the man (or woman) whose pleasures depend on the permission of another".

Likewise seeking the approval of others, or being bothered by their negative opinions the way to very poor mental health.